- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Fiance and I are getting married in his hometown and have planned a trip over Labor day to look at churches, venues, etc. I also have planned a day out with Future Mother-In-Law, lunch and dress shopping, just getting to know each other better. (FI and I are about 14 hours away from his family). She’s going to be the grandmother of my children and I’ve only met her a handful of times, so this lunch date/day out is really important to me, as is the looking at churches and venues with Fiance.
That being said, FI’s sister wants to buy FI’s car. We mentioned that we were selling it because we just don’t need multiple cars. She’s been looking for a good used car and knows that her brother takes great care of everything. It’s a win-win for everyone except…
We have to get this car to her on the Labor Day trip and get home too! We have a couple of options…
Both drive 14 hours, in separate cars.
Drive up in FI’s car, fly home.
Have my mom come along to help drive.
Each has pros and cons, but my mom coming is the solution Fiance seems to find to have the most pros and least cons. I don’t know if this sounds immature and rotten, but honestly, I don’t want my mom to come. She met FI’s family once before when she and my dad accompanied us on a trip. The trip was really stressful and it was uncomfortable and annoying to have my parents with us. (Think four people crammed into a Jetta for 14 hours, plus dog. Then sharing a hotel room with parents. Add alcohol.)
This trip would be different, it would just be my mom, who I consider my best friend, and we wouldn’t be packed like sardines in a Jetta. But I just don’t want her to come along. I want to go alone with Fiance to talk to the priest, I want it to be just Fiance and I looking at the venues and making the decisions based on what we like and what we want for our wedding day.
And I want to spend time with my Future Mother-In-Law.
I haven’t said all this to Fiance yet because I want honest opinions from the hive. Do you think it’s immature and childish to not want my mom to come along because I don’t want her opinions and I don’t want her to come along with my Future Mother-In-Law and I?