Post # 1
I would like to get my thoughts and feelings out regarding my currently situation.
My partner proposed to me in May 2013 in Italy over looking the sea and everything was perfect.
In July I’d got a job at a photographic studio which I enjoyed and thought was a permenant thing. I’d been told by my manager that I have until jan to improve otherwise I’m gone. It sounds simple right? just improve and you’ll get to stay?.
Sadly I don’t believe this is the case .Within that company there is alot of favourisitism and the training I’ve needed hasn’t been provided . I’d spoken to my FI’s parents and they’d said
” It seems the odds are against you and there’s nothing you can do “
The thought of losing my job fills me with dread . I have a phone contract (2 years) and an internet contract with 6 months remaining. I have no idea how to pay these without a wage.
I’ve applied to other places but so far heard nothing.
I was speaking to my FI last night and told him we still have alot to pay for , can we do it?. Should we cancel or postpone?.
I feel deverstated and highly embarrased that I must now cancel my wedding day.
The venue , car ,cake ,make-up artist and photographer have been booked ,along with me choosing my wedding dress . I honestly feel like a failure having to turn round and say due to me losing my job I can no longer get married.
Any stories or words of advice would be most welcome
I’m feeling very low in myself right now and don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel
Post # 3
Oh hugs, I know this is frustrating and disspointing but you are being incredibly smart by being aware of your finances and your budget and just remember not right now doesn’t mean not ever! Make sure you are both working as a team on this and these sort of work environments are not uncommon unfortunately! You can get through this!
Post # 4
Regarding your comment “due to me losing my job I can no longer get married”. You are very fortunate in that you, in fact, do still have the privelege of being able to marry. You just might not be able to have a party / reception. I can understand being disappointed about not getting the party, but that’s a completely seperate issue.
There are so many people who actually and literally cannot marry the person they love so it’s important to remember that and remind yourself of your good fortune.
Post # 5
Can you get a more menial job while you’re looking for a good full-time employment? When I was in college and needed money to pay my rent, even with no work experience I was able to land a waitressing job fairly quickly. It wasn’t the greatest pay in the world, but I was still able to make enough to cover the basics like my rent, utilities, phone, etc. I’m not sure what it’s like in the UK but here in the US you can always find waitressing jobs somewhere and the money’s quick (since you get paid mostly in tips). I don’t know how much you pay for your internet, etc but you should be at least able to make that much in tips to cover your bills while you look for full-time employment elsewhere.
Don’t lose hope! I know it looks bleak now, but if you and your FI work at it everything will work out in the end.
Post # 6
@Shina: +1. I’d do a filler job for now so that cash flow doesn’t dwindle until I found something else.
Also, I’d get married at a courthouse and have the reception later. The marriage is what matters, not the wedding.
Post # 7
Do you have anything in savings? Is your fiance helping you pay for any of the wedding? Are you getting any financial help from either of your families?
I’d look into getting a job, any job, so you can keep bringing in a paycheck. Even if you have to look at fast food jobs, there is always some place hiring.
Post # 9
1. Have a good cry.
2. Scream and bitch for awhile.
3. Start planning, if you’ve booked vendors get out your contracts and find out what if any penalties you have for cancelling.
4. Sit down and have a hard look at your finances.
5. Look for a stop gap or temp job.
6. Relax you can still have a wedding, you just have to get creative about it, you may not get all the bells and whistles that you had planned one, but you’re getting to marry the one that you love!
7. When in doubt you can hold a totallly rockin courthouse wedding if you want.
8. Breathe! People plan weddings on no budget all the time, look and see what they’ve done.
9. Breathe! It may look like the end of the world right now, but if you do some planning now it will make things much easier.
10. Breathe! You’re with the one you love that’s the most important thing!
Post # 10
some excellent suggestions there. Yes this is true I’m happy that I at least get to marry him.
We are looking at a ceremony only and a small dinner afterwards.
I did photography at uni and my friend has agreed to photograph for free so I’m happy about that. It’s the images that will last forever ,not the giant party or reception.
I just have to believe everything happens for a reason.
If we have to post pone that we do .
at the end of the day I want to spend our married life happy not in mountains of debt
Post # 11
You seem to have a better mindset than your original post which is good. I wish I could have had the money for a big, lavish wedding. Our wedding was $1400, with 100+ in attendance. If you still want to marry him, go to a courthouse. I’m sorry about your job, it isn’t easy 🙁
Post # 12
As far as your job goes, I wouldn’t give up yet. Have you had a talk with your manager as to exactly what you need to improve? Is it your skillset or your customer service, etc.? After you pinpoint what you need to work on, ask for some guidance. Perhaps if you have something concrete to work on, you CAN improve.
If all else fails and you are forced to find a new job, remember that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the things that we wouldn’t choose end up being a blessing in disguise.
Good luck to you!
Post # 13
Totally agree with you.
Sometimes things turn out a bit differently than you thoght they would?
It’s O.K. – CarnivalRose don’t give up and most of all….
Know that your not a failure. You should be proud that your at least looking for answers and ideas.