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Let me preface this by saying I am not a bridezilla.  I"ve been really cool about a lot of things for the wedding and have changed things to accomodate other people.

Now my vent. Some family friends have a traveling gospel band (husband, wife, grown son). The wife said she'd play the piano for our wedding as that was the one thing my fiance wanted more than anything.  She was going to play the processional, hymn during communion, and recessional.  She said she could play anything, so we found a great old song.  When we tell her, nope, she can't learn it (even if we got the sheet music for her and it was 5 months away). Okay. We picked another tradition hymn and my mom told her. Great she knew this one, so it was a go.  Around this time we asked her husband to say the prayer at our reception (a meaningful thing for us).  A few weeks ago they started to hint that money was tight, to my mom, not me.  Mom told them they ought to call me and let me know if they might not be able to come.

Knowing this because my mom told me (they never called), I started to get anxious a few days ago, so today I asked my mom to give them a call.  They told my mom they couldn't come. I understand that things get tight, but they've known for a year about the wedding, telling me all along that they were going to be here. I picked the hotel for out-of-town guests based on the hotel they wanted because they get rewards, and it would be $70 a night. They only needed to be here for 1-2 nights and the drive wasn't even outrageous.

I guess what leaves me really hurt and frustrated is that the wedding is 6 1/2 weeks away and they weren't going to tell me.  If my mom hadn't called, who knows when I would have found out.  A former roommate of mine agreed to play piano for communion, but having the family friend play was going to be incredibly meaningful.  Now I am going to be scrambling to find somebody to play the processional and resessional because it was meant so much to my fiance.

I am going to talk to my former roommate because she's a piano teacher, but I don't think she's going to want to. This, plus the videographer mess from Sunday/Monday, is pretty much stressing me out.  It's really lame and frustrating!

Thanks for letting me vent bees! Any suggestions?

I have had so many people back out without telling me! A former coworker is also a coordintor and was all excited. I had a work issue with her niece who worked with the same company and she just randomly stopped talking to me. It was pretty easy to guess she wasn't going to be involved.

My sister told me she couldn't be a BM because of financial reasons, but then she bought a boat.

I had 2 MOH's but 1 stopped talking to me and then texted me to tell me she couldn't be a part of the wedding.

Now the pianist and her husband. 

I promise I'm not a bridezilla. My fiance keeps telling me we have the flakiest people around us ever and that we are better off without them. I just don't get why people do this! Lame friends are one reason that weddings get so stressful!