What to do when you are depressed? How to get out of the funk?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 4
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Do you have a friend or two that you can call up and make plans with?  Are you close with your mom and can call her to chat about it?  Try to do something fun with someone other than your SO to remind you that you have a support system of people other than him that love and care about you.

Otherwise, plan a “me” day (a.k.a. a mental health day.)  Take a day off from work if you can (or do it on your day off, but it’s better if you take a day you would otherwise be working.)  Plan out your entire day.  I let myself sleep in an extra hour but no more because I don’t want to waste the day.  Then I drive out to the beach or river and enjoy watching the water.  I usually eat lunch overlooking the water.  Then I go and pamper myself with a pedicure because I deserve it.  If you feel like company, invite a friend or your mom along to join you.

Post # 6
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@Bazinga:  If you can force yourself to exercise, that is AS effective as anti-depressants in boosting depression!  (Clinically proven.)  Even something more relaxing and less hardcore, like a yoga class, can be really good for this kind of mood.  I also really like volunteering at an animal shelter when I’m in a funk – taking a pooch for a walk is such a boost.  Hugs.

Post # 7
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Bazinga:  Sorry you’re going through this! I would recommend some you time, walking, pedi/mani, and get some sunshine. Vitamin D is super healthy for you (as you probably already know) and maybe some you time as well as being outside will help.

Post # 8
1766 posts
Buzzing bee

I know how u feel. I have severe mood swings…i think it might be polar disorder..my mother has it. time is all that helps my moods. also some solo time with my hubby is nice…like date night. Cuddling with him and of course a nice sex session. having mood swings is horrible…it’s a daily battle to not hurt my children and husbands feelings…thinking horrible things…feeling worthless..not knowing how i will be day to day. do u have friends who have battled depression?. I have noticed that most ppl don’t know what it’s like…i have a friend who battles it as well..so i feel normal knowing im not the only one.

Post # 9
1766 posts
Buzzing bee

*bipolar disorder…darn autocorrect!

Post # 10
4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I cure depression by exercising. Honestly, nothing feels better than knowing you’re taking really good care of yourself. A few weeks ago, when my changing preggo body made it so I just couldn’t run anymore I was DISTRAUGHT. I was down on the dumps, the very picture of depression, crying and inconsolable for a solid two weeks. I felt like I was losing who I always was — can’t drink anymore, too tired to go out with friends, can’t run … but then I decided to stop this madness, so I 1) joined some Meetup clubs to go hiking, since I can totally still do that as long as I have people to go with me, and 2) put myself on a workout schedule of lifting weights and power-walking and really stuck to it for a week straight. And lo and behold, I felt good again!

I know it can be really hard to motivate yourself to work out, especially if you haven’t in a while. The trick is to start with things that are really easy. It’s a bear to motivate yourself to go to the gym and run five miles on a treadmill … but how about going to the gym and riding the recumbent bike for 15 minutes and then WALKING on the treadmill for 15 minutes? That’s much easier to commit to, because it’s not that hard. 15 minutes just flies right by. And hey, maybe once you’re there and you’re getting to the end of your 15 minutes, you’ll think “I actually feel pretty good and I think I can go another five minutes!” And if you can’t, you’ll still feel good that you did SOMETHING.

Basically, nothing improves a slump like taking charge of some kind of self-improvement. ANY kind of self-improvement will do. 🙂

Good luck, I’m rooting for you!!

Post # 11
9019 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Bazinga:  ((HUGS))  Oh, hon.  Here is my diagnosis:   You are feeling powerless right now and that is causing the depression. 

Ok, you can’t do much about your Dad, that’s truly out of your hands.  Pray for him, spend time talking with him as much as you can, and understand that life throws all of us these curves balls with regard to age, health, parents, etc.  It is a part of life; difficult, yes, but it happens to all of us.  No human being is exempt from this challenge.

As far as being worried that your SO will break up with you?  Well – stop giving him all the power in this.  If you really, truly, deeply in your gut feel he is planning to dump you, then come up with some solution for that.  Either dump him first OR plan what your life will be like when he breaks up with you.  Visualize it.  You will be sad, you will cry, you will grieve.  You will hurt like hell.  Ending a romantic relationship always hurts.  But you will heal from it.  And you will be free from wondering and worrying about things like, “How does he feel about me?”  “Why isn’t he talking to me?”  “What is he doing on the internet that he feels the need to hide from me?”  So, that’s the bright side – you won’t have to be so on edge and insecure any more.

Take your power back by using your mind to take the worst case scenario and running with it, all the way to the end of the tunnel.  Until you see the light.

P.S.  A man who loves you won’t make you feel that way.  He will make you feel safe, loved and secure.

Post # 12
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Bazinga:  I don’t really have anything useful to say, just wanted to add that I am sorry, it’s a shit feeling and I hope you feel better soon!

Post # 14
1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Bazinga:  I didn’t read all the replies… but I struggle with manic depression a bit (I’m far more in control of it than I was 10 years ago) and when I feel depression weighing me down, I window shop. I try not to actually buy anything because that hurts the wallet, but I find that window shopping can lift my mood just as much. I also cross stitch, read a book that I love, watch a movie that makes me laugh, anything to destress and relax a bit. I also tend to eat copious amounts of chocolate.

-hugs- I hope that things get better for you soon.

Post # 15
312 posts
Helper bee

@Bazinga:  do you like to cook? I found this very helpful in pulling me out of depression and losing weight. I hate the gym and the only activities I would consider are swimming and walking but those alone didn’t help me lose weight so I didn’t have a choice but to cook healthy, low fat meals to lose weight. I stopped eating processed food and ate everything homemade. It gave me something to look forward to so I couldn’t focus on the bad things going on and I kept off the 20 lbs I lost. I hope you feel better soon. 

Post # 16
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think one of the most important things is not to isolate. Make an effort to be around your loved ones even if you don’t feel comfortable telling them and dumping this on them.

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