Post # 1
FI and I are an encore wedding – and so only having a MOH and Best man. No ushers, no groomsmen. Initially we weren’t inviting anyone but family to the wedding, but then I changed my mind. Some of our close friends really want to attend. So we are inviting 100 people, doubt we’d even have 50 at the wedding, but how do we handle the fact that we dont have ushers. FI says the best man doesnt seat people and has no interest in seating people either. Do they just stand in the back of the church and tell people to take a seat (which seems so tacky to me and then why couldnt the two of them seat people?). I guess we’ll also have to put some kind of reserved sign on the first two pews also? Any ideas?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
We had our groomsmen seat people. We had about 80 people at our ceremony. Our best man escorted grandma in. My brother escorted my mom in. And reserved signs on the seats work fine. I think people typically know to leave the first row for family anyways. I think ushers are necessary if you want to make sure bride’s side sits on one side and grooms on the other. We didn’t care where people sat, so it didn’t matter.
Post # 4
What about having a friend or family person just take charge of the ushering… it doesnt seem like a very hard job and shouldnt take very long. I assume that people would like to help as much as they can for people they love!
Post # 5
We’re kind of in the same spot. My fiance will have 100-130 guests… I’ll have 30-50. We’re wondering if we should just ask someone to tell people to “sit wherever.”
I think if you ask a few people in yoru family that will be there early to help out, you shouldn’t have a problem.
Post # 6
If there’s no usher, won’t people just walk in and sit down themselves? I mean, I always did.
Post # 7
Yeah, we didn’t have ushers and it wasn’t a problem. The groomsmen walked in with our mothers and grandmothers, but no return trips. If it isn’t a big deal to you, then just let people sit wherever they want. We had a ton of mutual friends and coworkers at our wedding, so it also felt weird making people “choose a side”…