Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in two and a half months. We have had a falling out with his family and there are some people who are not safe to have at the wedding; however, we sent them STD’s. It would be like these people to come to the wedding and be nasty, or to RSVP they are coming and then not show (it is a sit down dinner and is expensive). Our thought was to send another notecard explaining that our plans have changed and they can free up the date they had previously saved for our wedding. Just something simple, nothing mean, and thanking them for understanding. Any thoughts? We didn’t want to be nasty and not send an invite and have people wondering so we thought this may be a good option.
Post # 3
Oh wow.. this is a tough situation. I had 3 people that were being really ridiculous and they only received the STD from me. I never sent them an invitation with all the info so I had no worries. They got the point LOL I dont have much advice, sorry.. good luck!
Post # 4
Meh. To be honest if there was a serious falling out, I personally just wouldn’t send the invitation and if someone said something like “where’s my invite?” I’d just suck it up and tell them sorry but no. you should have thought about your invite before [insert falling out situation here].
Post # 5
we had a falling out with a couple, and we’re just not sending them an invitation.
Post # 6
I had a situation like this. I REALLY didn’t want to send the invite, but I sucked it up and did it counting on them to rsvp no since they weren’t close with me anymore at that point. And I worried and worried, and in the end they did say they wouldn’t be coming. So it worked out. But I think it does suck to have that worrying and take the chance. I would not send them the invite in your case, since it sounds like an actual fight. I’m not sure whether or not I would talk to them about it.
Post # 7
Same thing has happened to me too. I prematurely sent a “friend” a STD, now knowing I do not want her at our wedding. We’ve decided that we won’t be sending her an invitation, I doubt she’ll ask why she wasn’t invited. My only concern is that she’ll be a dingaling and show up to the wedding since all the information is on our website, which was on the STD. I hope she doesn’t show up though bc our coordinator will be escorting her out.
Post # 8
if it were just a falling out between friends, I’d say send an invite as an olive branch and then maybe you could rebuild your relationship. But if it’s a serious problem that is causing this, I’d say just skip sending the invite. They’ll either forget about it, or get the point. And if you suspect foul play, Spend the money you would have on their plates on someone to watch the door.