(Closed) What to do when you have sent STD but have a falling out with people?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Oh wow.. this is a tough situation. I had 3 people that were being really ridiculous and  they only received the STD from me. I never sent them an invitation with all the info so I had no worries. They got the point LOL I dont have much advice, sorry.. good luck!

Post # 4
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Meh. To be honest if there was a serious falling out, I personally just wouldn’t send the invitation and if someone said something like “where’s my invite?” I’d just suck it up and tell them sorry but no. you should have thought about your invite before [insert falling out situation here].

Post # 5
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

we had a falling out with a couple, and we’re just not sending them an invitation.

Post # 6
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a situation like this.  I REALLY didn’t want to send the invite, but I sucked it up and did it counting on them to rsvp no since they weren’t close with me anymore at that point.  And I worried and worried, and in the end they did say they wouldn’t be coming.  So it worked out.  But I think it does suck to have that worrying and take the chance.  I would not send them the invite in your case, since it sounds like an actual fight.  I’m not sure whether or not I would talk to them about it.

Post # 7
20 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

Same thing has happened to me too.  I prematurely sent a “friend” a STD, now knowing I do not want her at our wedding.  We’ve decided that we won’t be sending her an invitation, I doubt she’ll ask why she wasn’t invited. My only concern is that she’ll be a dingaling and show up to the wedding since all the information is on our website, which was on the STD.  I hope she doesn’t show up though bc our coordinator will be escorting her out. 

Post # 8
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

if it were just a falling out between friends, I’d say send an invite as an olive branch and then maybe you could rebuild your relationship. But if it’s a serious problem that is causing this, I’d say just skip sending the invite. They’ll either forget about it, or get the point. And if you suspect foul play, Spend the money you would have on their plates on someone to watch the door.

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