What to do with brother's new girl?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

lala3005:  I don’t know, if I had just started dating someone for a few months, I wouldn’t expect to be included in their sibling’s wedding at all. In that situation I might just want to attend as a guest with no responsibilities. Maybe ask your brother what he thinks she would prefer? 

Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

lala3005:  I don’t know that she expects to be included (I wouldn’t be if I had just been dating someone a few months). If I were her, I wouldn’t want to be. I’d just want to make sure I can hang out with my boyfriend at the reception since its likely I wouldn’t know anyone besides you and the parents.

Post # 4
1527 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wouldn’t include her. It seems weird, what if they break up? You’ll think back to your wedding and the readers, and you will barely remember who this girl is.  If you want to include her, I would invite her to hang out with you and your bridesmaids as you get ready, instead.

Post # 5
1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Like previous posters, I wouldn’t include her.  I’m sure she’ll be happy to attend.

Post # 6
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

Do not include her. I’ve been asked to do somethign like that and felt SOOOOOO weird. It’s hard to decline too. She will be much happier enjoying the wedding.

Post # 7
1180 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with the others. I doubt she feels the need to be included, and it would be awkward to have take a role in your ceremony, as she just started dating your brother. I’m sure she’s happy to just attend your wedding. 


Post # 8
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I wouldn’t include her, although she should of course be invited and made to feel welcome.

Post # 9
12865 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d invite and not include especially since you don’t really know her.  She may feel awkward and that it’s too new after just a few months and if it doesnt’ work out, then it turns out some random girl played a part in your wedding that you dont even keep in contact with.

Post # 10
2666 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’m with everyone else – don’t include her in the wedding as anything but a guest.

Post # 11
2239 posts
Buzzing bee

lala3005:  I would not include a new girlfriend in your ceremony, and I really imagine she’d prefer it that way too. That’s a bit intimdating, and could make her feel like she has to be very committed to your brother. If you really like her and want to include her in some way, you could offer to let her get her nails done with you or something with the prep, but I would leave it alone otherwise.

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