What to do with my dad? Advice much appreciated! (long)

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Zimtstern:  i dont really have any advice but i wanted to say how sorry i am for you that you’re going through this. is there any independent living centers in your area that he could live in? ones where he has his own apartment but has the help of workers/aids etc? that might help him become more independent and not feel like a burden to anyone. plus i think those places offer counselling so that would help him too with the depression. plus meeting other people his age and with similar issues, he’d form friendships and start becoming happy again. i dont know if that helps you in anyway.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Zimtstern:  you’re welcome. i dont really know how to help you with the insurance aspect of that as up in Canada, things are different. i’d see what your options are and how much things are in your state first as i think having you close by at the beginning would help him in is current state of mind. it sounds too at this point that he needs some serious help – mostly emotionally and psychologically than physically. maybe having home care would work too just incase its expensive to have him move into an independent living center. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would look into a senior center. Many communities have a place for seniors – not a living situation, but a place to go and be social with other seniors. Many of them also handle seniors with dementia, and have staff there to assist. It gives them something to look forward to on a daily basis, they can make friends, play cards, whatever they want. And the families have the peace of mind that they’re in a safe place during the day. 

Pricing tends to vary, depending on the services offered and needed. The one I volunteered at served breakfast and lunch, and the families were charged for the meal if the person didn’t bring one with. Overall though, it was pretty low cost.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would talk to a social worker (or whatever the equivalent role is in your country if you’re not in the US).  There are a variety of options and resources for seniors ranging from job placement for seniors who want to work, community centers where seniors can spend time together, public transportation shuttles that help seniors get around at low cost without driving or having to navigate a public bus or subway system, and volunteer opportunities. All of these things can help your father be out of the house more, which may help him become happier and more active in living his life. A social worker may also be able to provide advice on mental health resources and counselors, as well as senior benefits that may be available to help him have more money for daily life. Lastly I would definitely try to get him interested into a retirement living community– these are not the depressing “old folks homes” you hear about. These days, many retirement communities offer fantastic amenities such as social events, cultural events, group outings (mall, lunch, museums) and light sports, all onsite. More importantly, these communities offer a chance for older folks to remain socially engaged which can help keep a person mentally at their best, and keep them from falling into loneliness and depression.

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