(Closed) What to do with my husband’s crush?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My hubby confessed once that he found my bff attractive–and it hurt like hell at the time. However, I found it helpful to remember that he chose me and that he (and my friend) are respectful of our relationship and wouldn’t try anything. Maybe remembering that he picked you will help! Also, try to talk calmly to your hubby about your feelings (writing it out beforehand can help avoid a fight).

And…hugs! It’s like a paper cut. It stings a little, but it’s not the end of the world.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

First of all, birth control can really screw with you :).

Secondly, I would ask your husband to not tell you anymore who he finds attractive. Personally, I don’t want to know which of my friends FI is attracted to, and it works for us to just not share those types of details, lol. And about your current dilemna, I would still hang out with them. I bet the awkwardness will fade really quickly.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think that would upset me too although you seem to be pretty rational to me.  It’s all about what you are comfortable with; if you still want to hang around with the friends then I think that’s what you should do.  You seem to really trust your husband when he says he won’t cheat.  If it was me and I still hung out with them, I would just always make sure I was there with them 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My FI used to have a major crush on a girl who is one of his closest friends.  She’s been with her boyfriend for 8 years, but it still used to bother me a little when we hung out with them.  Ever since we got engaged though, I don’t worry about it anymore.  Mine chose me, and yours chose you.  So even though it’s easier said than done, I agree that you should continue to hang out with them, and just make sure your husband is sensitive to your feelings.

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