Post # 1
FMIL is doing all of the bouquest fo r the wedding. At one point she mentioned doing the flowers for the men and the grandparents, but we never went on from there. I am doing my budget at this moment and a category that I have are those items. I do not know if I should e-mail her and ask or what? I do not want to seem as if I am asking her to spend more momeny or as if I am pushing her to. Liek I said, I just need to know what to budget. WE sometimes do not get a long. That is why I am worried
Post # 3
hmm…well you could:
(1) just be straightforward and honest with her. let her know you’re working out the budget and just wanted to double check which flower arrangements, if any, she will be doing (keep it neutral so she doesnt think youre suggesting she should do more or less…). let her know you appreciate her help and think she would create some great designs. i think thats a perfectly understandable – its your wedding, you have to plan things! unless she is completely unreasonable, the question shouldnt be a huge surpirse.
or you could get your FI involved. he could do the asking and act like the two of you are finalizing the budget together. that could cause more friction if she sees through it, but it would avoid a confrontation.
Post # 4
Just ask her nicely if she still wanted to do the flowers and if not, no big deal, you are just trying to figure out the budget. No one would go that crazy over that.