Post # 1
Quick question Bees–
We are planning on about 40 guests for our DW. My Fiance broached the subject of us having another reception in his country at some point (I’m not interested in having a reception in my country). I’m ok with the idea…but how does this kind of thing go? Is it like a second wedding kinda? Do we have toasts and a first dance and all that other jazz? Most importantly, what do I wear?
Post # 3
The ball is in your court. You make it what you want it to be. Some people have two huge extravagant parties. Others do one big, one casual. It’s really about what you and your FI want.
Post # 4
I agree – make it what you want. You can have an over-the-top party or a casual get together. Also, both could include or not include all those traditional elements (i.e.: first dance, cake-cutting, etc.) In the end, it’s really up to you.
SO and I currently live in Washington, DC but the majority of our families still reside in or around our hometowns in two different areas of the US (Midwest/East Coast). We tried to make one giant wedding work, but ultimately it wasn’t us. We finally decided what we really wanted was a super small, non-religious ceremony where we currently live.
However, it was also really important to us to make our families happy. Our compromise – 2 at-home receptions after our “destination wedding” in our hometowns where our parents still live. Since I’m already getting what I want from my ceremony, I left it up to the mothers to decide what each of the home parties would be like. While they both decided to rent a hall and invite about 150 people, a lot of the traditions are still up in the air. No matter what’s included, I’m going to wear my wedding dress for all 3 (since I know that’s what they want.) However, had either suggested a backyard summer BBQ, I would have happily bought a fun summer dress instead.
Post # 5
@Overjoyed: Again, totally up to you =) We are having 2 receptions when we get home. One will be near our current home; it will be a traditional Chinese wedding banquet. I’ll wear my wedding gown, then change into a Chinese dress.
Our second reception will be in the midwest. I’ll be wearing my wedding gown but I’m considering a reception dress. I just want to have more excuses to wear my expensive dress =)