Post # 1
hi bees!! I am newly engaged and am not sure what to expect from my first appointments to try on dresses.
I am heading from NJ to Phoenix for the upcoming long weekend to see my best friend. She is worried she wont see me again until the wedding and we really wanted to do wedding activities together. So, she has scheduled two appointments at two different salons in Scottsdale. One is a designer specific salon and the other has a lot of designers.
I have no idea what to expect from the experience. Am I expected to buy right them? Will I be pressured? Will it be bad/frowned upon if I don’t purchase something? What do I wear undergarmet wise? How many dresses did you all try on before finding “the one”? May I show them the magazine clippings of styles I like? Should I try on dresses that I am not fond of, such as a mermaid dress (I have big hips and fear the style will make it worse) or should I ditch my preconceived notions?
I am excited and nervous at the same time. Something about seeing myself in a white dress that makes this whole thing very “real”!
Post # 3
It depends on the salon, but I didn’t really ever feel pressured to buy a gown that day. If they know its your first shopping trip I doubt they’ll expect you to buy something. Bring a strapless bra and nude underwear, some places will provide a corset. If you’re shy you’re prob going to have to get over it quickly because your consultant will see everything. I tried on like 80+ dresses before I picked one. Try on everything and anything and don’t turn anything down because of what it looks like on the hanger you really cannot tell until you try it on. Do you have a venue yet? They’re going to want to know the look/feel of your wedding so they can suggest appropriate gowns.
Post # 4
I had the same fears but honestly there was no reason for them. I went to about 10 dress stores total and only felt pressured a few times, but its really easy (if your not ready to commit) to just say I think I want to keep looking, or I’m not sure about this one or I need time to think. I went with my mom and she was very helpful in making it clear that we would only buy if I was 100% happy.
Post # 5
-know what you don’t like (beading, colors, bows, etc) although do try a few b/c some things on the hanger do look different on
-try lots of styles
-bring power bars and water for in between places (you’ll get tired!)
-if you feel pressured a good line is i need my mom/grandmother/aunt/insert special person here with me to make a final decision
-it’s useful to have your hair in “nicer” condition (just makes you feel pretty) aka not i just woke up i need to shower, or if you know how to you want to wear it, straight, curly, etc, have it kinda like that is useful but not essential
-bring a camera, have your friend take notes, get style numbers (descretely if need be)
-most importantly have fun!!! dont stress out you have time to find the dress you love!
Post # 6
When I went, I did bring a staples bra, and they gave me a slip to wear. If you are shy, just make sure to wear undies you don’t mind the saleslady seeing lol
I brought some pictures of dresses or styles I liked, and then discussed with the sales lady what I did and didn’t like about the dress pictures. Keep an open mind with the styles of dresses – a mermaid style might actually really flatter you so don’t discount it just because you are unsure, however, if you definitely know you do NOT like something, be open about it. I personally don’t like corset backs *at all*, so I was clear about that.
I tried on TONS of dresses – and some dresses are HEAVY. I like the idea of having water handy. If your hair is long, you might like to have it up in a simple ponytail, as your hair can get caught in beading/zipper/layers of the dresses as they hoist them over your head.
Also, some salons will let you take pictures, and some won’t. If they won’t, I thought it was helpful to take notes on dresses – what I liked about them, how they fit, so that afterwards, I could look up the picture online, but have my notes to go a long with it.
When I had narrowed it down to dresses I really liked, I walked around in them. How does the dress feel when you twirl? When you sit down? When you bend over? Is it comfortable to walk in/dance in/sit in?
You shouldn’t feel pressured to buy, and you don’t have to buy that day. If you do want to buy though, it doesn’t hurt to negotiate with them. I ended up getting 20% off the price of my dress just for asking what they could do for me, that day.
Also, don’t fret if you don’t have “the one” feeling. Everyone is different. Neither my mom or I cried/hugged/etc., when we went dress shopping, but lots of women do – that’s just not either of our personalities. I also never had “the one” feeling – I LOVE my dress, but I don’t feel like it’s absolutely the only dress in the whole world of millions of dresses that I would love. (But again, believing in “the one” of anything isn’t my personality).
But don’t buy until you do absolutely love something – and feel comfortable in it, and think it makes you look like a million bucks! Have fun!