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So, I was trying to look for helpful information for one of the posters here... and found this instead.

http://www.trygve.com/youngbride.html

I'm pretty shocked by what I'm reading. I'm such a slut by these standards! ;) haha. But is this for real?! They make sex sound so terrible. LOL. How could anyone adhere to these?

Some highlights:

"One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY. Otherwise, what could have been a proper marriage could become an orgy of sexual lust."

"As soon as the husband has completed the act the wise wife will start nagging him about various minor tasks she wishes him to perform on the 'morrow. Many men obtain a major portion of their sexual satisfaction from the peaceful exhaustion immediately after the act is over. Thus the wife must insure that there is no peace in this period from him to enjoy. Otherwise, he might be encouraged to soon try for more."

"While sex is at best revolting and at worse rather painful, it has to be endured, and has been by women since the beginning of time, and is compensated for by the monogamous home and by the children produced through it."

@Eva Peron: For real!

@Eva Peron: I second that!

I wonder who wrote this....  

@Mrs.Estep:LOL right??? Especially on the nakedness part. I'm such a nudist at heart.

ETA: also, imagine the reaction if you were to talk about inane things during sex. OMG. how awful. That's worse than being silent. haha.

Not to threadjack, but did you check out the sites other links? There's one on how "Your Favorite Lucky Charms Shape Controls Your Sex Life."

The Young Bride article was a good laugh--I had to read it outload to FI because I was cracking up.

@LaviniaRose2013: Reminds me of this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MGWhLTipGPc

"Instead of the silent treatment, she's giving me the talk-until-I-want-to-commit-suicide treatment."

"The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit, later to annihilate completely, her husband's desire for sexual expression."

OMG! OMG! That's so depressing!

"My cousin has this friend who claims his parents never kissed in the mouth (at least in fron of the kids), the dad just kissed the mom in the forehead and they never hugged or anything."

My DH's elder bro and wife are actually like this. Lol! They are not that much older than us. (Just by 3 years!) However the hubby is an orthodox and a half and the wife is a village idiot. (I am sorry to be saying that because it is, in fact, detrimental to ME because she never wants to have any kind of relationship with a 'heathen' like myelf). So they NEVER touch each other in front of anyone. NO PDA whatsoever. Not even accidental!

Whenever DH and I went over to their place, I also kinda pushed him off me if he wanted to hug, touch, kiss me, etc. (I stopped doing that shortly after but not without feeling like a COMPLETE ASS for trying to conform to someone else's standards.)

But whether the article is true or not, ppl like this DO still exist, even in the modern day North American culture!

There was a huge anti-sexuality movement in the 1800's that was fueled by the belief that social morals and values were threatened by the enjoyment of sex by ANYONE. In fact, the reason graham crackers and other bland foods were invented was part of a theory that exotic/spicy food led people to have sexual cravings/desires. It's rather fascinating, but also quite sad. Men and women of the time were urged and pressured by society to suppress and even loathe their sexual desires and appetites.

This doesn't surprise me, though I will say it's probable that MOST people of the time did not adhere to such nonsense. Sex has always happened and always been enjoyed :) Just have to remember that publications of a time don't fully represent the reality.