Post # 1
Gosh, I still feel so out of place. I’m new here and the long list of “hurry up wait” stuff we are dealing with seems to be increasing. I just got engaged a week ago but we are planning a wedding around July 11th. I have now been told by pretty much everyone I know who has had a wedding in the last 3-4 years (a lot of people) that I need to get a dress ASAP due to this. I was also told by a place nearby that I am contemplating checking out that I should have a dress ordered by the end of September. So, taking that advice in stride, I’m looking to make some appointments in the next couple of months.
My ideal situation is one where my mother and sister fly into the large city about 2 hours from here and we spend a day shopping. Ideally, I hope to find a dress then. I don’t have a lot of time due to my job to spend dress shopping and since I live in a place with no retail, it’s a long drive to get to a place with dresses. I wasn’t planning on shopping this way but apparently my parents have decided to move to another state so all of the dreams I had shopping and getting fitted in my old home area are kind of shot to heck. The new city I have an opportunity to shop in is much smaller and I know nothing about what shops are good. I will have to spend a lot of time calling, I think. I don’t want to spend a lot (definitely less than 1k and absolutely would love to keep it between 5 and 700) and I am looking at short dresses. Either venue I am contemplating at this point is fairly casual and fun and a long dress in a potential outdoor ceremony seems like a terrible idea.
Since I am the oldest, I have no clue what to bring. Is there like a list? Is each shop different? I’ve been told by multiple people I need to bring a corset. Ugh. Okay, fine, I was planning on getting one before my first fitting but should I now? I’m an odd size (a 34DD) and there are no places in this area that would sell such an undergarment. It would require me to drive to a store over 2 hours away prior to these appointments. Is this a must? If it isn’t, I’d rather wait. I also will apparently need to get measured again and they may have to order something. It seems very complicated.
I know I need to call shops, ask them if they have styles I am interested in, and ask them if they carry other things in my budget but with my budget being so tiny (I’m a grad student and I’m rather poor) I am not sure that they will want to cater to me? Is this silly?
Anything else I should know about going forward? I bought my prom dress off the rack and it fit like a glove and I’ve not shopped for anything since so this is a bit daunting. I also find the idea of most “traditional” wedding dresses pretty hideous and I really don’t want something over the top or poofy. I don’t mind them on others, just not me. Shops aren’t going to try to push me in that direction, right?
Post # 2
Woah girl — breathe! lol
I understand why you are concerned but you are fine. Most shoops say it takes 6-9 months for your gown to come in but usually that inclused alterations etc.
I would say get an idea of what kind of shop you are going to and the range of prices with their gowns — have an idea of what you like and don’t like (bring picstures as it will help). I can’t stress enough to keep an ope mind on my two fittings i had them bring me everythign I didn’t want.. but I was willing to try to get an idea
Just bring a good bra and spanx if you have them, if not meh!
Post # 3
I haven’t gone shopping yet but I am planning to bring a bra that I can wear with backless styles, wearing nude undies and maybe even bringing a spanx type thing. I am trying mostly backless style and sheaths so I want to get a good idea of how my body will look.
Post # 4
I went shopping at David’s Bridal, and they provided the corset to wear. Maybe just wear a strapless bra wherever you go though, just in case. They gave me a book to look through so that I could show them the styles I liked, and the consultant took it from there. Don’t stress out too much! It’s supposed to be fun 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Take a deep breath! First off I believe dresses take about 5-6 months to come in. Mine took exactly 6 to the day. I didn’t bring anything with me to try on dresses and a lot of dresses will actually have long line bras sewn in. The exception to this is David’s Bridal who provides the bra for you to try on dresses with. Bottom line, once you select a dress let the shop worry about getting it in on time for you. 🙂
Post # 6
Wear light colored underwear and light colored and/or strapless bra.
Figure out what you like, but be open to suggestions too.
Lastly, relax! You are not behind, you are right on time, and you will find something.
Post # 7
Thanks, bees! This was really helpful. One of my best friends works at VS and she rec’d a pair of seamless yet supportive undies and to bring a bra similar to the type of bra I would intend to wear. I am going to go get something from them (a strapless bra in my size) because I need a new one anyway and will get nude undies.
It’s good to know we aren’t behind on timeline. People are well-meaning but they have a tendency to not realize just HOW stressful things get lol. I am a stickler for budget, so that will be the part I won’t be able to budge on and I will stress that. I hope the consultants can respect the fact that I’m a grad student on a tiny budget. My parents may inflate that budget, of course, but I am going to have that chat in a couple of weeks when I am home.<br /><br />I’m very excited but very overwhelmed. FI and I are going to be moving in a few days, I just got back into the country from being gone for over a month, and we have a lot of stuff to do before I start teaching in a couple of weeks.