Post # 1
My BM (who had NO interest in being MOH because she doesn’t like giving speeches) has been SUCH a big help and has been so thoughtful. She and my FI are friends (when he couldn’t pick who would stand with him, he joked that she’d do it), and when he worried about pulling off the perfect proposal, she talked him off the ledge. She’s gone to Maine twice with us for planning trips. She bought our dog a bow tie and leash for the wedding day. She helped me pick out my dress. She special ordered personalized garters (I didn’t ask her to do that or the dog stuff, but she did). She also let slip that she bought me a lingerie set for the wedding night. I wasn’t planning on doing any sort of bachelorette or shower thing (I’m in my 30s with no local family), but she got in contact with my girlfriends and set up a mellow bachelorette evening (2 weeks before the wedding). She’s gone so above and beyond, that I want to do something special for her. My friend is also very well off financially, so she already has pretty much everything (and then some), and has very expensive tastes, so things I know she likes (handbags, spa services) are out of my budget (or what I would be able to afford will look pidley and lacking).
Looking at these boards, it seems people seem to like robes. I like that idea, but for all I know my maids have robes already. I ordered some inexpensive ones, and then found an Etsy seller who makes fun embroidered patches with a lobster and the person’s name that I will sew on. I like this better than a monogram for a Maine wedding (and my BM LOVES Maine lobsters!). I am also going to get nice pashminas that they can wear the day of (and hopefully beyond) if it gets chilly.
I feel like I should do more for my bridesmaid (I will give it to her at another time, apart from my sister, so my sister doesn’t feel bad, as I know she’d do more if she were local). Any ideas? I love the photo book ideas some people have, but we’ve only known each other the past few years, and she’s camera adverse so I only have a couple photos. She likes penguins, rabbits, polka dots, the Twilight Series (Edward) (and Luis Vuitton, Prada, BCBG, Betsy Johnson, Bobbi Brown, Elizabeth Arden spa services, and a bunch of other things out of my budget).
Post # 3
I just reread my post at the end, I make it sound like she’s 15. She’s a 39 year old attorney (but a young, fun 39).
Post # 4
What about tickets for you two to see a play together in NYC, get tickets from tkts? Or take her out to dinner? If she has everything maybe a gift of a fun experience for her or the two of you would be nice?
Post # 5
I think a gift certificate or a special “experience” (concert, show, fancy dinner, etc) would be more appropriate for someone who has everything!
Post # 6
I agree with maybe an experience gift– those are always good for the person that has everything!
Or just a heartfelt letter and some pictures?
Post # 7
I love the PP’s idea of a fun experience! A play in NYC is probably out of your price range if some of the things you mentioned would be too much. Since you said she loves lobsters, is it possible to have lobsters shipped to her- like a lobstergram or something?
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I also decided to get one more gift that I’ll give them before the wedding. My sister has a cake business on the side, so I’ll get her a fancy cake book. The above and beyond BM likes mugs, and really likes animals, so I found some cute mugs on Etsy that have little animal figures on the bottom, and I contacted the seller to see what sort of personalization can be done on the outside.
The experience ideas are good, thank you! In looking at the mug animals, I remember her exclaiming how much she loves the zoo, so I thought a fun day could be at the zoo and then a nice dinner (I know she likes Bobby Flay’s places, and while it would be expensive, I love food and have wanted to try it so I wouldn’t mind).
She mentioned a cuisanart soup maker she thought was really cool. She told her mom she wanted it (her parents get her whatever she wants), and he mom asked when she’d ever made soup, and the answer was never. Should I get her the soup maker (and joke that everytime we come over, we expect soup), or go with the zoo idea?
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Take her out for mani and/or pedis and lunch.
Post # 10
What about something from a local artisan. A beautiful ceramic bowl can be affordable and very unique. Also check out grouping maybe you can find something that would usually be out of your budget at 50percent off.
Post # 11
What about scheduling a delivery of some Maine lobsters (with clambake sides) to her apartment a week or so after the wedding? Off hand, I only know of places on Martha’s Vineyard that do it (Menemsha Fish Market is one), but it can’t be hard to find one in Maine and it’s a fairly affordable luxury….and an amazing treat when they arrive in the mail.
Post # 12
@bythebook: Love that idea!!