Post # 1
FI and I need to get something for his grandparents this xmas. In the past we have given them silk throws, premium teas, etc…
Well, since two years ago, FI’s parents (FILs) told us that we NEED to give grandparents cash (and also they want cash for every occasion).
Anyways, this year, we don’t want to give cash because all the cash we give always end up in other people’s pockets (two grown uncles in their 40s still live with the grandparents with their kids too!)…
SO bees, any ideas???
Post # 3
@weddingbee098: I love putting together a small hamper of groceries of things that you know they will like. You could put it together with a fruit bowl / nice basket or something that they can re use again.
This year I’ve packaged up a heap of gluten free food products for my mother along with a lovely stainless steel fruit bowl.
All the best!
Post # 4
@weddingbee098: Not sure as they have others living with them? As I was making meals for our family, I used to make additional small serving sizes of dinners and freeze them for them. Like making foods that you would likely make in larger family sizes, like pot roast or lasagna but make it in a loaf pan serving sizes, so it could serve 2.
Post # 5
For Christmas this year, I am giving all of our Grandmothers a photobook of our wedding day. I know they will love, love, love this gift!
Maybe you could do something similar and include family photos in it, as well as photos of your and your FI? One Xmas I gave my Gran a framed photo of my now hubby and I, and she loved it. I think anything that is sentimental they will love. The photobooks take a bit of time, but maybe you could put together more a small scrapbook style one if you are short on time?
Post # 6
I can’t say I’m terribly useful, as Grandma is getting fancy slipper socks and Grandpa is getting fancy chocolates.
Post # 7
Photos in nice photo frames! Ours always love that 🙂
And OY!, Isnt it a grandparents duty to spoil their grandkids with cash, not the other way around??!! lol
Post # 8
Hmm, that’s kind of a different family dynamic.
I think it’s tough because they’ve made it clear that they only appreciate one thing, so anything else you give them may not be appreciated. However, my Grandma always likes things that are photo related. Photo books, photo calendards, etc.
THis year we’ve got it easy – photobooks of the wedding for all grandparents!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Why do the FI’s parents not see the down-side of giving cash? Do they not realize where the money goes?
As for presents… maybe a gift certificate for a fancy dinner that you and your FI take them to?
Post # 10
Pay one of their bills for a month. I’ve done that several times for a family member as a gift. That family member needs nothing and is very tight financially so it’s a big help to them as it gives them some cash to do something else with or have a cushion for next month’s.
Post # 11
I made mine last night for the future MIL (all our grandparents are dead) that I think she’ll love. Walgreens allows you to put together photo books, posters, calendars, etc online to be picked up in the store. Since it’s getting close to Christmas it’s cutting it close for the photobook to come in, so I did a poster. Their website makes it so easy, you upload the pics you want (mostly of her son (SO) and grandson, Some just SO and I, some from the weekend vacation to the beach we took with his parents, and a joint photo of SO and I with all three of our kids). You can pick the size, background color, add text (mine was Christmas 2013) and arrange the pictures so they are grouped the way you want and sized the way you want. That was at 10 last night and I’m picking it up this morning.
Awesome last minute gift suggestion!
Post # 12
@Charbelle: Thanks for the idea!
@creativeplannertobee: Yes, both uncles families live with the grandparents, thats three families in one roof, about 12 people…. so making dinner will be difficult…
Photobooks would be great… if they’d appreciate it…but we are not that close with them. I certainly am not, FI only talks to them a few times a year. I normally make photobooks for my family and they LOVE them, but FI’s family doesn’t seem to be the sentimental type… =(
@red_pepper_gal: I actually was thinking of slippers.. haha
@tksjewelry: I would love to do that (or give them cash) if THEY actually benefited from it, unfortunately, the uncles families will mooch everything… they live with the grandparents even though they can afford to get a house of their own, but rather mooch, doesn’t help out with bills either… and grandparents are on welfare!!! This pretty much why we are against giving cash, bc it never ends up benefiting the grandparents! =(
Post # 13
What about a gift certificate to the local grocery store?
Post # 14
@arsing89: I suggested that to FI, getting a giftcard to krogers or something, but he said that they wouldn’t know how to use it! rofl… I doubted it, but it’s possible, also, I don’t think they even go grocery shopping, the aunts do that for them.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@weddingbee098: Well, since two years ago, FI’s parents (FILs) told us that we NEED to give grandparents cash (and also they want cash for every occasion).
WTF? Give them money so they can give it to their mooching children and grandchildren? Nope. Your gift is probably one of the few gifts they actually get each year and sending money means paying bills or buying things for other family members since they sound like selfless people putting up their adult kids and grandkids. Send them a nice gift basket from Harry and David or Wine Country Gift Baskets.
Post # 16
No way would I give my grandparents cash, especially so they could hand it out to two bum uncles. And you don’t NEED to do that, as it’s a gift, a gift can be whatever you want it to be.