Post # 1
Hi! I got married last month and my friend and her fiancee came to the party (large wedding open bar etc) and gave $250. We just moved out of state so we are missing her wedding this weekend, what is the appropriate gift to give her? Since we are not attending the wedding/eating a plate 250 seems a lot…….
ETA: Also, I attended her bridal shower and gave a gift about $50. We are not that close so I did not invite her to mine… I was surprised to be invited to hers!
Post # 3
You are not supposed to give a gift to pay back for your plate of food at the wedding so whether or not you go to the wedding, ate food, or took up oxygen at the wedding etc shouldn’t go figuring out what to give her. Just give whatever you feel you can afford and that you like. She shouldn’t be doing a side by side cost comparison and neither should you. For what it is worth, she realizes you aren’t that close if you did not invite her to your wedding.
Post # 5
We always give based on relationships. If we can’t attend the wedding we would also gift the same amount that we would have gifted if we had attended.
Post # 6
@MrsBeck: There’s no perfect solution to this one. I know a lot of people that totally do side by side comparisons and others that give what they can, and others that don’t gift at all (ick). But you should give what you can afford – me I would probably give the same that they gifted us.