Post # 1
I have a friend from high school as one of my BMs, and I am also in her wedding as well.
For my bridal shower gift, she gave me the garter that she made for me (her mother used to make and sell hand beaded garters, so my friend picked up the tradition and makes them for her friends)
So I realize that she didn’t spend a lot of money on my gift, but there was a lot of time put into it.
In a situation like this, I normally follow the policy of trying to spend about as much as someone spent on me, but since she made my gift rather than buying it, I’m sort of short on ideas.
Should I get her a sentimental gift? Buy her something off her registry?
If I go the sentimental route, I was thinking of having custom stationary made with her new last name.
Post # 3
I think it’s less important to go tit-for-tat in this situation than to get her something that is indicative of how much you care about her. Custom stationery would be lovely.
Post # 4
Since she’s a good friend of yours I’d look to get her something thoughtful. I don’t think what you get her should be dependent on what she spent on you. It should have more to do with what you can afford/feel comfortable with and what would be appropriate for the relationship.
Custom Stationary sounds really nice and personal.
Post # 5
See, that’s how I feel too- she gave me a thoughtful, personal gift, so I feel kind of weird just going “Here’s X item you registered for…”
Now, FI is in his Best Man’s wedding this summer as well, and they got us a couple things off our registry, so I feel like for her bridal shower my “spend around the same amount” policy works….
But for my BM, I just feel like personal is better… and I know she like sending hand written letters, so the stationary seemed fitting 🙂