(Closed) What to give my chinese mother as a gift?

posted 4 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
24027 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ellejay16:  Hmm…for some reason I’m drawing a blank here!  All I can think of is specialty Chinese teas, you know, like you’d use for a tea ceremony.  I’ll think more, I’m sure I can do better than that!

Post # 4
6 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

Hello there 🙂

Having a Chinese mother myself, I know it can be pretty difficult to buy the woman a present. I love her to bits, but she’s very hard to buy for!

For our wedding, I got her a bottle of perfume because she rarely buys herself luxury items. But that’s not really honouring the Chinese tradition, is it? Hahaha!

It all depends on how ‘traditional’ your mother is. I don’t really have any IDEAS per se, but I can rattle off a few Chinese beliefs/traditions which may give you an idea. 🙂

During the Chinese tea ceremony, the bride and the groom get gifts from their elders in the form of gold jewellery or an angpao (red envelope) filled with money. This is to bring them prosperity in their new life together.

Gold jewellery is a HUGE thing in Chinese culture, and not such a bad thing to receive, so that’s one way to go.

There’s also the preciousness of jade and silk in Chinese culture which you could allude to?

Red is also a colour that is thought of as ‘good luck’, and is found in abundance in most Chinese weddings. Case in point:

Red, red, everywhere! So maybe buying her something red she can use at the wedding? Red clutch, red shoes, gold jewellery with rubies?

Most of those materials can get pretty pricy though, so it all depends on your budget 🙂 Hope my waffling on helped, hahaha! Good luck with buying your momma a present 🙂 I had to be super sneaky buying one for mine! (Also, I’m still trying to hide it from her, hehe).

Ei xx


Post # 6
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ellejay16:  How about pearls?  My hard-to-buy-for mom is a fan of both regular pearls and black pearls.  Depending on your budget you can get earrings, a bracelet, or necklace.  They are so classic and understated that should appeal to most Chinese moms.

Post # 7
40 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

Gold jewelry I think is sure to be loved. I’ve also seen a lot of Chinese porcelain figurines, like Chinese and Japanese dolls, and fountains – my Chinese mom has a great collection of them, they seem to work as an heirloom gift, too. 🙂

Post # 9
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ellejay16:  I’m having/will be having the same riddle too. I think pearls, gold or jade would be beautiful gifts. Unfortunately, my mom lives in Hong Kong, knows all the best places to get bargains on fine jewelry, and will absolutely be like, “how much did you pay for this?” The woman doesn’t know how to accept gifts. 

Did you end up deciding on pearls??

Post # 11
24 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had the same problem a few weeks ago. I decided on jewerly to be on safe side. What I did was I took my mother to jewerly store that my fiance introduced me. I had her picked out something she like and something I can afford. I’m close to my mother so she understand me and i can be honest. As a traditional mom, she picked out a 24k karat gold necklace!!!! lol, lucky i didn’t had to sell a kidney for her gift 🙂

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