Post # 1
Fiance and I have decided to not use the titles Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man, so we’re going to have bridesmaids and groomsmen titles only. I have mentally chosen my four ladies, but Fiance is stuck.
He’s choosing his brother, but after that he’s stuck. It sort of made him realize that he doesn’t have many close male friends. So I said choose guys who you’re friends with who would make you more relaxed and comfortable on the day and days prior. That didn’t help. So now he’s trying to base it on who would best be able to perform the tasks of groomsmen.
Except we’re at a loss as to what role(s) groomsmen play in the scheme of things!
What will your guys being doing?
Post # 3
At a minimum, Groomsmen rent the suit/tux/appropriate attire & show up clean and at least mostly sober and smile for pictures. They can, of course, help plan the bach party. And, for what it’s worth, your sides don’t have to be even. So, if he only wants his brother up there with him and you have like 5 best friends, go ahead and have uneven sides. It will cut down on the drama of having “filler” people you aren’t really close to.
Post # 4
It seems like all they do is show up & drink your booze!! lol Ours aren’t responsible for anything besides getting their tuxes and making sure my FH gets plenty drunk and has a great time at his bachelor party.. I don’t think I’d trust them to do anything important.. and I guess they’re all there to keep him calm the day of.. and hopefully the ones who are semi-responsible will make sure the others aren’t trashed for the ceremony.. I’d kill them!
Post # 5
My Fiance is the same way when it comes to having friends–he works full-time and is also a full-time student, so any free time he has is either spent doing homework and studying or being with me. When it came around time to pick groomsmen, he was at a loss! However, he’s made an effort to make friends with some guys from work, and a childhood friend moved into the area and we’ve all been hanging out a lot. He just asked them to be groomsmen a few weeks ago, and they were thrilled!
I’m pretty sure the only thing groomsmen are responsible for is supporting the groom, renting/buying their tuxes, standing up there with him during the ceremony, partying with him during the bachelor party, and sometimes the best man is responsible for carrying the rings (if you don’t have a ring bearer.) Since you’re not doing MOH/BM, your Fiance could also just carry the rings, himself. It wiould also be completely appropriate for someone like your FI’s brother to give a toast at the reception if he wanted.