(Closed) What to include on RSVP card?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If the children’s names are nowhere on the invitation, then it is NOT implied that they are invited… plenty of brides on here get very upset when people assume their children are invited and they were not on the invitation!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I had 3 lines for wwhere people wrote in everyone’s name, only one person wrote so-n-so family and I had to call and be like uh so how many exactly? Lol as for people with children I wrote mr and mrs and family..

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I addressed all of the RSVP’s the same as the invitations. We had pretty much maximized our venue space and couldn’t have extra guests. I didn’t want to leave it open for people to add others just in case

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@PinkAndPearls2013:  If you can, include an inner envelope that states the names of all invitees. Inner envelopes are the traditional way to indicate who is invited.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

My input is a little different then you will receive here.

I do not like M_________________.  I’d prefer to see name(s). Since I do not identify myself in social situation as Ms anyone.

I also do not like being told how I feel about my acceptance, or decline.  There are lots of time where I accept with regret, and decline with joy.

Do not expect guests to “know” that their children are included.  If you do not address it to Mr. and Mrs. Fritz Handlebar and Family or Mr. and Mrs Fritz Handlebar, Susie, Frankie.  Then the children are not invited, and it would be VERY rude for guests to reply for more then Mr. and Mrs. Handlebar.

 

Post # 8
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i didn’t want formal ones, I thought if they were a bit more “colorful” people might actually send tehm back. Im also considering filling out the names for them so it’s very clear who is invited (i may not need to though because there is the “we have reserved ___ seats for you”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

@avonleaR:  Did you just fill in the blank for how many seats you reserved? i was thinking about doing it and wac curious if it worked.  My fiance used to be in a frat house and a lot of his “brothers” are invited. Most of them are still single and we are having a 5 1/2 hr open bar.  We decided to opt out of having a bunch of random drunk girls at our reception so they wont be getting plus ones.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@subola:  I don’t know if it works but its the least I can do apart from saying you don’t get a date. We have alot of single friends and we have had to make many adjustments to our guest list so it would really upset me if theres was a “date” there instead of someone I would much rather have attend my wedding. Hopefully it works! and yes we will just fill out the seats reserved so that it is kind of obvious.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think:

__ Accept with Pleasure

__ Decline with Regret

 

is totally fine. I would just put a blank line though. But I would clearly state on the envelope who is invited!!!

Also PLEASE, for you sanity, PLEASE put a little number on the back, either neatly in black pen or in an invisible ink to correspond with your hard list. That way if someone forgets to put their name you can find out… instead of having to post a picture of the blank response card on FB asking who it is (my friend had to do that).

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