Post # 1
So we are 20 weeks preganant and do not know the sex of our baby. However, my husband wants to name it after him if its a boy and I and firmly against him naming our son after him… one of the reasons is his name is old fashion William….secondly in his culture the childs middle name indicates the day of the week the child was born on. So if our child is not born on a Monday then technically it will not be a junior!!!! I am just so pissed because I really really really dont want to name our child after him…what is a good comprmise? I suggested for us to come up with a first name that we both like and name the middle name his first name.
Post # 3
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I like the idea of using his name as a middle name. I would never name a child after myself or my husband, especially after the disasters I’ve seen with my dad and brother. My second brother was named after my dad (same first and middle name) and even though they OBVIOUSLY have a different social security number, you would not believe how many times their credit scores, bills, etc get mixed up! It’s insane and really annoying. They are constantly battling it out over the phone to figure out whose information was used for what.
Post # 4
@June232012: It should be a compromise. The thing you both have to remember with compromise is that it may not be either of your first choice…
In choosing my son’s name, I had particular criteria. Figure out what’s important to you- maybe 3 things- and go from there. Here were mine:
1. not in the top 100 according to the social security database
2. easy to spell (no mulitple spellings), easy to prounounce.
3. not made up
Those are mine just for an example. Hope this helps!
Post # 5
@June232012: I think a good compromise is to find another name that you both like. He wants a name, you don’t like it. Forget the name and find another. 99% of parents have to do this when they are naming their child. You could give the baby William as a middle name, but I’m guessing that you wouldn’t have started this thread if that was an option to you. If you don’t like William then I don’t think you should include it – sorry, but I don’t think your baby’s name should be a grudging compromise.
OP I think you should do as a PP suggested and make a list with your husband of the(5? 10?) characteristics that you think are most important when deciding your baby’s name. This helped my FH and I narrow our name choices down because we had a better idea of what we were looking for in a name. If tradition and honour names are really important to your husband then you could look at names in both of your families. If your FH likes the style of William then you guys can look at names from the same time period and maybe put a modern twist on them (I’m guessing you like more current names). If your DH wants to name your son William out of vanity then he can get over it.
@mamadingdong: That’s a good idea. I would also like to add to the list –
4. Something that suits the child all through his life (I can’t really picture a 90 year old Kayden).
5. Something that will allow the child to be taken seriously in the adult world.
Another compromise would be to give any daughters you might have a female version of your DH’s name? Willow? Wylda (the ‘wyl’ can be pronunced like ‘will’)? Winter? Winona?