Post # 1
I know you all remember me… I want to start by saying that I did not mean any disrespect by discussing my mother’s manipulation prior to filling in the rest of the details, though, I assure you, those details had nothing to do with the original post. Okay, moving on…
I have most of what I want to say in my new save the dates worked out. For those who don’t know, I am moving my wedding from my hometown in North Carolina to an immediate family only ceremony at Disney World. However, thanks to the advice I recieved here, I want to throw a party/informal reception/cookout when I get home at my uncles house for my family who will not be able to come due to the limited spaces for guests.
I recieved several different opinions on yesterday’s board, some saying that I shouldn’t tell anyone that we’ve moved it to Disney (saying only that we’ve moved the location and will be having an intimate, immediate family only ceremony) and others saying that I should be honest and say we’re going to make our dreams come true at WDW, but that due to size constraints, we are restricting it to immediate family only.
If I don’t say that we’re moving it to WDW, my mom has already told me she is going to tell people I’ve moved it to Orlando because she refuses to lie or hide the truth…
So before I print these, what is the majority’s opinion? Tell the new location or keep it under wraps to avoid hurt feelings?
Post # 3
As the old saying goes “Honesty is the best Policy”
I think you should tell people the truth – those people that really care about you and your wedding should not have a problem with you doing this – at the end of the day it is your wedding and others should respect your wishes even IF you have changed your mind. I think you just need to remember the word RESPECT in all of this and you should be ok 🙂
Post # 4
If I were a guest, I think I’d be more hurt not being told the truth and then finding out the details later.
Post # 5
Unless you’re planning on keep photos hidden from friends and family members for the rest of your life, they will eventually find out that you got married in Disney World, so you might as well tell them now.
Post # 6
@Gemstone: Completely agree.
I’m an “honesty is the best policy” person too. If people find out later, they’ll be hurt or offended or worse.
Just add an honest note about the situation in your Save-The-Date Cards. And if possible, can you and your family start spreading the word so it’s not a shock when the Save-The-Date Cards arrive? That might help people understand, hearing it directly from you (or groom, or parents, etc.). Good luck with all of this, it must be a lot of work to have to change everything!
Post # 7
How does everyone feel about this?
Post # 8
i think that is perfect and really respectful!!! imo love it!
Post # 9
Thanks! 🙂 I downloaded a Disney font for the purple parts… I am aware that I am hopeless.
Post # 10
I agree with the honesty policy. And I think it sounds respectful and people will be receptive of that. I would add the at home reception date though, because otherwise people won’t know what date to save!
Post # 11
I don’t think you should mention an event they aren’t invited to. I think you should focus on what they are being invited to.