Post # 1
I want to put this out there to married and engaged bees, what did you register for that you use on a regular or somewhat regular basis? A.k.a. what do we put on our registry that we actually need?
Fiance and I have lived together for 3 years, and we’ve upgraded and bought new kitchen/bathroom/apartment stuff throughout or have received as Christmas/birthday gifts. Truthfully we want to start saving for a downpayment on a house more seriously in the next year or two and hope to be on the right track paying down debt as newlyweds. Right now we live in a loft apartment – big enough for two and our furrbabies but are trying to stay put until we can save up for a small house or condo. So we don’t want to register for a bunch of stuff we don’t exactly need or have a place to put away 🙂 I am already a bit of a clutterbug, so we’re really trying to pare down what we don’t need or use.
So far we have decided together that we will register for a set of casual everyday dishes and cutlery (we currently have two mismatched sets that have like 3 out of 4 plates each…darn soapy hands and me dropping dishes) and maybe a couple new frying pans and a coffee maker…that sort of thing. But aside from a handful of items, we tend to buy what we need and I feel weird putting something on the registry that is just an un-needed upgrade to something we already have, you know?
Post # 3
Im not doing a retail registry. I am doing a honeymoon registry. Just like you, I already have an established home as well and literally cant fit and dont want any more knick knacks around the house.
Post # 4
@NCPwedding: That makes sense. I’ve heard about a lot of different honeymoon registry sites, do you know which one you are going with?
Post # 5
We did a honeymoon registry as well….. i don’t care what people say about it, we have everything we need, we’ve lived together for 4 years.
if you want you can register for a big ticket item such as a really nice camera… then everyone can give whatever amount they want towards that specific camera, or something like that.
Post # 6
we have everything we need. We are both in our 40s.
We didn’t register at all. People can just bring a card to the reception if they want to.
Post # 7
You don’t have to have a registry. Have it spread via word of mouth that you’re saving up for a downpayment.
I’m not starting the debate, but I personally would do no registry at all over a honeymoon registry. Just my opinion.
Post # 8
Don’t feel odd upgrading.
Some people, no matter what, want to buy you a gift. As long as it’s nice, they won’t care if it’s “upgrading.” Dear Fiance and I are doing a bit of that and donating our gently used items to a women’s shelter that recently opened.
I also added a lot of organizational type stuff to help us store things better since he’s moving into my rather small house.
Post # 9
@jlc3: We didn’t need much either, we just registered for new pot/pan set, few sets of bedding sheets, new bath towels/kitchen towels, few kitchen items we needed/wanted, and that was it. We received most off our registry and other guests gave $ or gift cards, or gifts of their choice.
Post # 10
@abbie017: well then why did you even mention it at all, haha
Post # 11
@RockStar33: Because the two PPs had mentioned it.
Post # 12
We’re not doing a registry either. We pretty much have everything we need already & I’ve purchased “upgraded” stuff for myself throughout the years, lol. My wedding will be somewhat small- 100 people, so I’m not anticipating weird gifts from people who don’t really know us all that well. To put it into another perspective, I recently went to a wedding & when I checked out their registry, they had Wustoff knives listed. Gifting knives? I thought it was weird, so they got cash instead!
Post # 13
@RockStar33: & @abbie017: Haha, no debate happening. I think for some people it is a good idea and for others, it’s not their cup of tea. I like the idea but I haven’t done enough research on it, I just feel like our families and friends wouldn’t jump on that bandwagon. I do want a waffle maker though like, really really bad. Haha, so clearly I will have a one item registry!
@MissMaryMc: that is an excellent idea too! At least twice a year we try to go through our closets and cupboards and do a cleansing of gently used items we can donate to VV or a shelter, maybe we’ll focus on that right after the wedding too.
Post # 14
We did a small registry and asked our family to spread the word about cash since we were about to move and didn’t want to move a bucnch of things across the country.
Post # 15
we didn’t register at all. it was a small wedding and we both have been married before. we got a few smaller gifts but mostly cards with money. we didn’t expect anything really.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
One of our registries is amazon, which allows a wide range of items. We have camping gear, 3-D glasses for the TV (guess whose idea that was), a travel guide book for our honeymoon, a receiver, AND the griddler with matching waffle plates (that way it’s not “just” a waffle maker).
You could register for a camera and other electronics. Container Store and Bed Bath & Beyond also have organization items. Amazon also lets you add items from other web sites- I have CB2 and BB&B items on ours, so it might be a good fit for you.
If you don’t need something or it’s not ready to upgrade, just have a small registry- nothing wrong with that. Future Mother-In-Law is spreading word to the family that we would prefer cash, as my couch has seen better days.