What to sacrifice: Style or colour???

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What should I do?
    Get a replica made in the right colour, at the risk of it being slightly different to the original. : (11 votes)
    23 %
    Buy the original, at the risk of my dress colour (ivory) clashing with FH's suit (white). : (36 votes)
    77 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Have you tried talking to him about it? I understand wanting to make him happy, but I’ve never heard of a bride choosing her gown around what the groom wants to wear! Your dress will most likely cost many times more what his suit will, and it might as well be something you absolutely love and feel beautiful in. Besides, he will wear many suits in his life and having another one won’t hurt. You only get one shot at your dream wedding dress.

    He may have spiritual/sentimental reasons for wanting to wear the suit, in which case maybe you should let him. But he may also have just been thinking “Hey, that might look kind of cool” without thinking about how it may box you in. FI briefly considered doing the same thing. I already had my dress at that point, and I had to explain that him going with white would necessitate me either buying a new dress, or me looking “dirty” in all the pics (since mine is a fairly deep ivory.) It turns out he wasn’t that attached to the idea, and was not at all attached to it when I told him that it would probably end up costing us a grand total of $2,000 plus the price of the suit for him to wear it.

    I let FI make a lot of the choices for the wedding, and I’ve compromised quite a bit. But I was not willing to give on this one. He seems to really like the grey suit he has wound up with! 

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Has he already bought the suit? Maybe he can get a suit that isn’t super white that wouldn’t clash with your dress? I mean I don’t know if that is even an option, just throwing it out there in case it is. I’ve also heard that you can’t tell the difference in pictures…I don’t know how much I believe that but there are people who swear it….I guess I’m not much help…sorry!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @ksus07:  Would he be willing to do an ivory suit, or does he specifcally want bright white? I’m not talking deep ivory, just enough so that it wouldn’t make your dress look dirty.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    if explaining the concept of white vs ivory confuses him, he wouldn’t notice if he wore an ivory suit over a white suit. He’s probably insisting on white because he probably pictures cream when you say ivory. I would really do my best to convince him to try ivory

    Post # 9
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Personally, if you REALLY want to give him an all white suit (which I also personally do not like the look of), I would do a blush pink dress. I understand that your dress only comes in ivory, but I wouldn’t risk that the dressmaker find a white that matches exactly and I also think it’s too much white for the couple to be in white – YOU should be the one standing out in white, so instead, stand out in another color! I just like pink, so that’s why I’d do blush.

    Post # 10
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    5445 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would either have him wear a different color or have him get an ivory suit. 

    Post # 11
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    2630 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @ksus07:  Could you order him an ivory suit at the same time then compare them to each other in real life as opposed to depending on computer monitor colors? Would it be cost prohibitive to have to return your dress and/or his suit if you don’t like how your outfits look together?

    Ooo I also love the idea of getting your dress in a totally different color. It doesn’t have to be strong, but a very lightly tinted fabric would give the two of you enough color separation that it won’t be an issue.

    Post # 12
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    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Could he wear a shirt color to match your dress? But still have the jacket and pants white?

    Post # 13
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    3128 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    DH wore a white suit and I had an ivory dress. Funny, I didn’t think about that until right now.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Both my ceremony dress and reception dress were ivory. Everything DH was wearing was white. I think dress designers idea of ivory is drastically different than the rest of the world. You can request a sample of the dress color and bring it with when he is picking out his suit if it worries you, but my guess is you will be fine!

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Ivory is SO close to white–you won’t clash–you’ll stand out!

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Honestly, for most guys ivory is white.  I’m wearing an ivory dress and had to talk with my fiance about matching me (with an ivory vest/ tie), and at the store he barely saw the difference.  I’m going to guess he won’t really be able to tell the difference either.  I wouldn’t risk buying a knockoff just to get a white dress.  Personally, I think there are very few people who actually look good in a pure white dress.  It might look ok if the dress isn’t too ivory.  Maybe you could ask for a sample of the fabric and put it by the potential suit coat?

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