Post # 1
My fiance and I were scheduled to get married on Oct. 16, 2010, but we had to cancel our venue because they were a TOTAL nightmare. Since October is most popular month to get married in TX we have no where to go and have to push the date back.
We have already sent out save the cards and have a lot of out of town guests so we need to let them know to stop all travel plans.
We don’t have a new date yet but want to let everyone know to “erase the date” and that we will be sending out information on a new date later.
Any ideas on wording that sound positive? I’m stuck.
Post # 3
You could make it funny with actually using “Erase the Date” with an eraser erasing the date.
Post # 4
Ugh. It seems like it would be really hard to make this sound positive without having set a new date. But, you need to get this out ASAP. I know I just started planning on booking travel arrangements for an out of town wedding in October.
Is there any chance you can set a date and just make it work? That sounds really tough, and maybe there just aren’t enough venues in your area to make it happen, but I am kind of at a loss.
Post # 5
Same thing happened to us. (also, I feel your pain…our venue is in Tx, and suddenly our Aug. wedding had to be pushed back to May 2011!! Everything was already all booked up for the fall.)
We put a note on our website (which was referenced in the save-the-dates) in bold letters telling everyone something to this effect: “As of June 23, 2010, Our wedding venue has fallen through. Please don’t book any plane tickets or make arrangements until we can resolve this. If any of you has already booked a plane ticket, please let us know.”
The irony was that people had just gotten the save-the-date, so they were looking at the website for the first time. (so we got the info to a lot of people that way). We also sent out emails to everyone. We called people who aren’t tech-savvy and told them the news. Our parents helped tell relatives. Basically, the message to everyone for a month and half was to wait…because we had to find a new venue and secure a new date.
If you don’t have a website, email them PRONTO. Make sure the subject line is in caps, if need be, and says, “Wedding Date Change–Please Read.” If you don’t hear back from people in a few days, they might not have read it, and you’ll have to call them. Don’t lose valuable time making something on paper to mail out! You want to catch anyone b/f they book anything.
We’ve updated the website every few weeks to let people know that we’re in the process of re-booking a venue.
I feel your pain…hang in there 🙂
Post # 6
I hope I didn’t miss the gist of your question. Basically, what I’ve found is that most people don’t know what a save-the-date is, unless they’ve gotten married recently, and sending something that says “Erase the date” will be more confusing. (Although it’s a cute idea!) It’s best to just tell people plainly that your venue has changed and you are working on a new venue and date.
It’s tempting to spin it into something positive, but for those people who don’t keep up with you regularly, they may not totally get it…it’s clearer to let people know that something you didn’t plan on (the venue falling through) has happened, and you need to draw attention to it.
And, in the end, it will be positive, I promise. I understand having a nightmare venue, and it’s so worth the wait to deal with one that has their stuff together. 🙂