What to say when you don't know the groom???

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6951 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@NikkiKillpretty:  I would be honest and say something like

“While I don’t know you that well, Bob, I know my friend and that she is an amazing person with incredible taste, so I am really looking forward to getting to know the awesome person you must be in the years to come. May your life be full of sparkly rainbows.” (Or, you know, whatever.)

Post # 4
496 posts
Helper bee

… And she seems so happy in her new life with John Smith!!

The End.



(what else could you say?)


Post # 5
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@NikkiKillpretty: Normally, I don’t expect the MOH to talk much about the groom in her speech. You could just say something like:

“John, the fact that Suzy knew you were the one means you have a wonderful future in front of you. We all love you both and are so excited to celebrate your marriage.”

My theory with toasts is the shorter, the better, so no one will be wishing you said more/elaborated.




Post # 6
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would just say how happy you are for them as a couple and that you’ve seen the joy he brings into her life.  Since you are the MOH, people will expect it to be mostly about the bride anyway.

Post # 8
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@NikkiKillpretty:  Never, ever say ” I don’t know the groom (the deceased at a funeral) etc. It is grating for the person or the family to hear.

Just end by saying you are so happy for her that she met _____ the love of her life.

Post # 9
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@NikkiKillpretty:  havimg chosen you as MOH, I would think she should feel comfortable enoughI with you to discuss how they met etc. then you could tell her how you remember about having hidden him from you for a year and ask about the reason and who knew about it. If it turns out, it’s a “good” reason and she really didn’t introduce him to anyone for a year, I think you could mention that as a joke. Doesn’t work if he is so ugly she was scared to present him 😉 but else, maybe you could be like:

What can I say about your relationship? You were so in love with Kyle from the beginning that you wanted to keep him all for yourself. Literally. For a whole year! (and the guests would probably relate to this and smile ;)) but having seen you together, I can testify that it obviously worked well, you’re the cutest couple and I am so glad to witness this day and officially testifying to the fact that you’ll get to keep each other for the rest of your lifes. 

it doesn’t need to be that, just to show that I think you could address it in some way without being awkward. 

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