- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
So one of my best friend’s has been pretty unlucky with love (she partly brings it on herself by the guys she seeks out, the way she lets them treat her, and the way she treats them back)…
We met when she was dating my FH’s best friend, and that ended badly. Next she dated a total weiner (that’s really the only way to describe him) – she was way out of his league and he had no job, wasn’t going to school, and was 26 still living with his parents. After that she moved on to another, I quite like him, but they just weren’t really made for each other. Then another, this time a pretty boy that walked all over her, to the point where she lost her car, her apartment, her cell phone got shut off, and she almost lost her job – she was paying all of his bills, and he was another 27 year old that still lives with mommy and daddy, no school/education, ugh I *hated* him. And now here we are… with the new one, we’ll call him Brian.
Brian seemed like a nice enough guy when I met him last weekend. We were at the bars and we talked about his job. Immediately he confessed to me that he’s the jealous type (her ex had dropped me off at the bar and said hello to him). He told me that meeting the ex alone made him want to “flip a table over.” RED FLAG #1.
Now my friend is way out of Brian’s league (look wise)… Brian is probably 5’4″, bad teeth, and comes from a long line of heroine addicts (all of his siblings, and his parents). He broke away from that and got a good paying job as a welder, owns his own house, a boat, and 2 trucks and a car. Those are his *only* redeeming qualities. As the night went on and he got more drunk, he got more and more jealous. He threw a fit anytime she would talk to a guy. She’s a very flirtatious person, so I told him straight up, if this is something that really bothers you, you need to get out of this relationship NOW.
He went on and on about how he has no self confidence, how he’s jealous of *every* guy, and how he is planning on forbidding her from talking to any males (um that’s 50% of the population). He’s scary/crazy jealous. And she’s in love with his money. The first thing he said to me was “I’m giving her my $60,000 car to drive to work tomorrow because I can.” RED FLAG #2. Then I go to the bathroom with her and she says “Don’t you just love Brian? ‘Insert I’m-better-than-everyone-else comment here.’ He’s letting me drive his $60,000 car to work tomorrow. He has a boat too.”
Sorry this post is getting so long, but fast forward to yesterday. She texts both me and FH that she has a new number, but tells FH to not respond so Brian doesn’t see the text came from a guy (me and FH have been together for 7.5 years, he’s not going anywhere…especially with her). The she texted me to say, “Brian won’t let me talk to any guys. He gets on my facebook and deletes guys that are my friends. We got in a huge fight today because I told so-and-so (male) happy birthday on facebook and he said that he would never tell another girl happy birthday because he’s with me.” UM THIS GUY IS LIKE 30!? WTH!?
Sorry for my super long explanation, but I don’t know what to tell her… well I mean, I want to tell her RUN FOR YOU LIFE THIS GUY IS PSYCHO but she never ever listens to my advice. Do I just let her waste another year of her life on this guy as I’ve seen her do with numerous other guys, or is there some way that I can break through to her and tell her to get out now!? HELP!