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Hi Everybody,

Help!  One of my bridesmaids purchased purple Coach clutches for two of the other three maids without my knowledge.  I did not provide any guidelines on accessories or styles for them, and just asked them to wear the same color dress (dark purple from Davids) and the same color of shoes (black strappy sandals).  They all agreed on those choices before they were finalized.  I wanted it that way- I don't want them to be miserable, and I don't want to be a Bridezilla.

Here's my thoughts:

1.  Two of the maids are already set on their clutch choices (black clutch or no clutch, since the dress has pockets)

2.  What about the fourth maid?  Yes, she's 'only' a junior, but...

3.  Who would this gift be from, exactly, and why?  I don't need any more gifts for them, I'm all set.  And, why is she giving the other maids gifts?  She has never met them.  Will they now feel that they owe her a gift, or reimbursement?

4.  This approach goes against my whole general approach.  I do not want to micromanage them, and just want the same dress colors and general shoe styles.  I have checked with the girls before every major decision was finalized, and I'm not comfortable telling them what clutch to carry, point blank.

To compound the problem, my mother is also very excited and gushing about the 'wonderful gift' that ___ bought for my wedding.  Although I haven't spoken with this maid yet, I told my mother that I just didn't think that the other girls would use the purple clutch, since they had already chosen something else.  I kept is simple and light.  She's clearly disappointed, and clearly wants me to talk them into using the purple clutches so as to not hurt the feelings of this one maid. 

I'm fine with her choice of a purple clutch for herself.  But, I really would have liked her to have checked with me BEFORE she bought three of them!  I think that she just got super excited about her find at the Coach outlet, and that she found three of the same color.  She has wonderful, generous, loving intentions, I KNOW.

Am I making too much of this?  Am I being a Bridezilla now??  Should I do what my mom said and just give the clutch to the other girls as a freebie?

Thanks!!

Thank you, Mochacoca!  Or course, my main anxiety comes from potentially hurting a sweet girl's feelings, or being pushy with the other girls.  But, in the end, this will be a minor issue, I'm sure!  Best wishes with your wedding!

Hi Everybody,

Thanks so much for your opinions!  This is really a minor issue in itself, of course!  I've always been a person who hates to hurt another's feelings, especially of someone that I love- that's really the main issue!