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@MrsB-to-Be: Is it a Reform or Orthodox wedding ceremony?
Honestly I've only been to Reform, and its standard wedding attire. Men will wear a kippah (or yamaka).
If it's in an Orthodox synagogue, men and women will have segregated seating I'm pretty sure. I know they do for regular services, so I'm assuming that it would be segregated for weddings.
More likely than not, you're going to a Reform wedding. It's pretty normal - you don't have to worry about covering your head or anything. You'll be fine just standard wedding attire!
@jacinda10: I actually have no idea what time of ceremony it will be. FI's mom has the invitation. Would it say on the invitation?
@MrsB-to-Be: For Orthodox ceremonies you should:
We had a half jewish wedding and unless they are orthodox (in which case I am 100% ignorant) wear whatever you would to any other wedding. "Church clothes" if you will. They will usually provide yarmulkes for the men and sometimes the women but it isn't required for women to wear the doilies... sorry... they look like doilies!
@Ms Hedgehog: Heehee! They do at that!
I grew up going to an orthodox shul, so while I'm not religious I know most of the weird and wonderful rules and customs.
@Ms Hedgehog: The doilies comment is cracking me up! haha I've seen those though and I agree! They totally do!
@SpecialSundae: Thank you so much!! I still have no idea if it's reform or Orthodox but hopefully I can find out through FMIL before I go dress shopping but as far as customs go she's just as naive as I am :)
Is the ceremony in an actual synogogue? if not you can basically wear whatever you want.
If it is a synogogue and reformed I would still bring a shawl to cover your shoulders, although it's not necessary. If its orthodox it is definitely more strict as PP's have said
@MrsB-to-Be: As long as you're not wear a skimpy mini dress I'm sure no one will complain.
@MrsB-to-Be: My mum had more than a little rant about the new wife of the son of two of the denizens of our local shul who turned up wearing a skimpy mini dress on Yom Kippur and then proceeded to take a cellphone call in the lobby during a break in the service.
Unless its strict Orthodox or Hasidim, just bring a cardigan or shawl for your shoulders during the ceremony and a skirt/dress that won't show your butt if you bend over, hehee. Your date should put on a kippah - usually they will be handing those out to the men as they walk in the door.
@SpecialSundae: OMG?!?!? WHO DOES STUFF LIKE THAT?!?!?! That's insane!! If I was your Mum I would have had a rant too!
@mandypop: I like the cardigan idea! I'm big on cardigans with dresses anyway. My date will actually be my hubby by then because his cousin is getting married the weekend after us haha
A simple test with pretty high accuracy to determine what stream of Judaism the ceremony is at is to look at the name of the place.
If the name contains the word "Temple" then odds are it is Reform (All other streams believe that there is only one temple, the one in Jerusalem)
If the name contains the word "Synagogue" then odds are it is Conservative.
Any other name has equal chance being any stream.
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Hey ladies! I just want to say I am 99.9% naive when it comes to Jewish customs. FI's cousin's is getting married and they are having a Jewish ceremony. I just wondered if there were any special requirements that I needed to consider when choosing my dress for the wedding. Like should I cover my shoulders, wear a long dress, etc.? I'm Catholic and I know in certain parishes your shoulders have to be covered. I, of course, would dress modestly anyway (because otherwise just isn't my style haha) but I just wanted opinions. They're the only part of FI's family that are Jewish and when I asked FI he just gave me the shoulder shug and said well I don't know.... So I'm turning to you bees :) Thanks in advance girls! I really appreciate it!