What to wear to an Indian Wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’d advise wearing Indian clothing and just go for a colorful but tasteful dress, nothing too revealing. Definitely do not wear white! I’ve seen a lot of orange and teal and blue, happy and bright colors. Usually the bride wears red, so I’d avoid that too.

Have fun! Indian weddings are the best. Is the groom coming in on a horse? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

ah! i’m sorry. i meant NOT wearing Indian clothing!! **** they might either find it too culturally appropriating or either really love it, but i think the risk is too high. 

and on an elephant?! oh my. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think Indian clothing should be okay. Find a nice salwar , lehenga, or saree (you’ll have to get a blouse made if you wear a saree and get someone to drape it but the family of either the bride or the groom should know someone who can drape it for you)

A strapless dress even with a shawl probably won’t work as they will probably want shoulders fully covered. My family is pretty accustomed to Canadian culture but if someone showed up to an Indian wedding in a strapless dress they wouldn’t be looked upon too nicely by many people from that culture. 

If there’s a large space between wedding and reception, where people return home, then a second outfit is usually what happens. If it’s one followed by the other very closely then one outfit should be fine. 

Indian weddings are tons of fun! Lots of colours, music, and great food! Enjoy 🙂

 

ETA: Any time I’ve been to an Indian wedding (at least 7-8 by now) and someone from a different culture wears our clothing we love it! My SIL explicitly asked her non-Indian friends to try and get some Indian clothing because it showed a bit of respect to the family by dressing in traditional clothing. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  akirasan.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

Pollywog:  I’m invited to one too…my kids are in the wedding.  Thankfully, she is having a sari made for me so I don’t have to worry about it!  Good luck!!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

catpeaches:  I would wear Indian clothing, if I was able to borrow it from someone.  All of the Indians I know have really appreciated seeing Westerners in Indian clothes.  Does the bride or groom or family have anything?

(I am biased though and love all things Indian)

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

If you have no Indian source then what you’ve picked seems good.  I do worry about shoulder coverage and how low it may be in the front.  But it really depends on what part of India they are from and how strictly they uphold modest dress.

My India experience is also that most people will be very polite even if you are committing a social gaffe.  One day I came to work in a cocktail dress.  It was a struggle to even get someone to tell me what was wrong.

Enjoy all the food for me!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Pollywog:  That is really pretty, a  great compromise if you aren’t comfortable pulling off something from the traditional Indian clothing!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Pollywog:  I would probably ask the bride whether she would prefer that I wear Indian/Western clothing or whether it doesn’t matter. If everyone else (or almost everyone else) is going to be wearing Indian clothing, I wouldn’t want to stand out.

I’ve been to a number of Indian parties and events, and my friends have given me clothing to borrow when they wanted me to wear Indian clothing. I know you’re not close to this couple, but I think it would be nice to ask what they would prefer you wear.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

catpeaches:  I don’t think it would be considered cultural appropriation if the couple invited their guests to partake in their wedding celebrations not just by attending, but also by wearing culturally appropriate clothing. There’s nothing disrespectful about that. That’s why I think OP should ask what they would prefer. 

Like akirasan: has said with regards to her family, my personal experience with my Indian friends has been that they will be helpful to the point of giving me clothes and jewelry to wear when they want me to fit in with specific and appropriate clothing for an event. And they see my willingness to engage in their culture from a humble place as a sign of respect.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Pollywog:  HOLY~ I would wear that beautiful dress to go grocery shopping if I could get away with it. I’d never take it off.

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