Post # 1
So, DH and I are traveling across the country this weekend to attend a wedding. It is our fourth this summer, and I am not really looking forward to it. The wedding is outside in the Bride’s father’s backyard. It starts at 11 am, has a lunch, a dinner, dancing, and will probably end around 10? They requested that everyone rent tents to camp in the backyard, but we decided to stay in a nearby hotel instead.
My question is, what the heck do we wear to this thing??? The wedding website describes the shindig as a “field day,” with sack races, cornhole, bocci ball, and other outdoor games.
I was planning to wear a cotton sundress, and my DH was going to wear gray pants with a collared shirt. Well, now he thinks we should wear jeans, and I’m just not sure what is appropriate. We don’t know a lot of other people going, and I do not want to bother the bride the week of her wedding to ask about dress code. I know the bride is wearing a satin ball gown, but maybe she is just going to be more formal than the guests?
What would you advise your SO’s to do bees? Jeans or khaki style pants? I am so worried about dressing inappropriately for this thing!!
Post # 3
Since its a “field day”, I wouldn’t wear a sundress, but I don’t really like the idea of jeans either. I would probably wear nice shorts and a cute top. Your DH could wear shorts with a button down and still look dressed nicely, and appropriately for a backyard wedding.
Post # 4
I would go with sundress for you and khakis for him. Definitely not too dressed down- but I always prefer to be overdressed than under.
Post # 5
@AmyFarrahFowler: Gosh you might be right! I wasn’t even really thinking about me. Wearing a dress may not work out at all!
Post # 6
I’d wear a sundress like you said, but I’d tell my fiancé to wear khakis and a polo or something. Casual/comfy still but not jeans.
Post # 7
You could wear cute shorts or even better fitted ankle pants. Or wear the sundress and bring a change of clothes in the car and change for the field day events.
Post # 8
I would go prepared. I would wear your sundress and he in his khakis or grey pants. If you’re overdressed you can change. I figure it’s always better to be overdressed than underdressed for an occasion!
Post # 9
I’d wear your sundress but with bike shorts underneath and have him wear khakis or khaki shorts with a button-down. You can always keep more casual clothes in the car. If you are going to be playing games I feel like jeans would be too hot & sweaty!
Post # 10
I’d wear a casual dress (sundress or maybe even something slightly more casual, like a knit dress) and bring jeans for the activities! I like to be prepared, and I hate being under dressed for events. Besides, it sounds like many of the guests are staying over and so may bring a change of clothes anyway… You may not be the only one planning on changing if need be.
Post # 11
I’d wear what you were originally planning to for the ceremony, and bring extra clothes to change into, should things start to get extra rough-and-tumble for the rest of the day’s activities!
Sounds like a fun concept for a wedding! I would not be stoked about having 4 in a year, much less just the summer, either, though.
Post # 12
Ditto for the sundress for you, Khaki pants and polo shirt for him. It’s always better to err on the side of overdressed, rather thn underdressed. Take short or capris and a t shirt to change if needed.
Post # 13
Also agreeing with everyone who says to just bring a change of clothing!
Post # 15
@MrsTVLover: I’m all for comfort. If you’re not in the wedding party and it’s a backyard wedding, I see nothing wrong with jeans. Not every wedding is formal and they all don’t require formal or even business casual attire. I would vote you both wear jeans but FI and I are in the camp of, “we don’t really care what anyone thinks.”
Post # 16
wear a sundress and bring a pair of shorts. they make cute ones that aren’t jeans. you can always change in the bathroom or before the reception if you want to participate in the field day activities.