(Closed) What to write on invitations for co-workers

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Your post is a little confusing- what time is your wedding? Are you excluding them from some other part of the celebration?

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@kayaudmed:  So you’re not feeding them? You’re inviting them, but saying leave for a couple hours and go get yourself dinner because we’re not paying for you to eat???

That’s what you’re doing right? If so, don’t invite them. It’s insulting.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

so wait. they’re not invited to dinner but they’re invited to everything else?

I know this wasn’t your question but you may want to rethink that. That is very poor taste. I don’t think it’s acceptable to have someone come to a ceremony then skip out on dinner then come back for dancing. It’s just not polite.

Sorry I know it’s not what you’re looking for! 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m confused… are you wanting to invite them to the ceremony and the after-dinner festivities, while excluding them from the dinner part of the reception?

Please say no.  It would be grotesquely rude.  Under no circumstances can you invite people to half a party.  If you can’t afford to pay for their dinners, don’t invite them at all.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would be very poor taste to invite them to the ceremony and the late part of the reception but not to dinner.

That being said, it is not that unusual to extend an open invitation to co-workers to attend the ceremony if they choose.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah, not feeding them but wanting them to show up later is kind of wonky.  I would extend them a invite to the cermony only.  Maybe they can meet up with you later if you’re planning an after party?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Don’t invite them unless you’re going to invite them to the entire rception. It’s insulting and rude. You might as well say “Come for the ceremony, but you’re not important enough for dinner. Please come at 6pm to drop off your gift and have a slice of cake”.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I would suggest asking one of your co-workers who’s already done this how they worded it, although I have to be honest- I really don’t like this “tradition.” Maybe invite these coworkers for a BYOB BBQ or something later on- could be less expensive than drinks for 100 people (and does your caterer know you’re doing drinks for 450?)

Are you going to have tables or chairs set up for these guests? It also could be a bit uncomfortable for the coworkers and other guests already there (“these ten empty tables will be filled after you eat.”

I realize you’re not getting the responses you wanted to your post, but if I was one of your coworkers, I’d be insulted.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it would be difficult to address both the ceremony and post-party on 1 invitation because of the gap. What if you just gave them a written invitation to the post-party, and verbally welcomed them to the ceremony?

For the post-party, I’d say something like “In celebration of our marriage, please join us for dessert and dancing at six o’clock at the XYZ Hotel…”

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