(Closed) What tradition are you leaving out?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What traditions are you skipping?
    Everything! We're an offbeat couple. : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Nothing! We love it all. : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Tosses (bouquet, garter) : (35 votes)
    57 %
    Garment-related (dress shoes, white dress etc) : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Food-related (feeding cake, champagne toast etc) : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Aisle walk-related : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Other - explain below! : (8 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    The receiving line!  I dunno, I just hate it.  I was so glad we got to leave it out:)

    Post # 4
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We ditched: 

    • the garter/bouquet toss.
    • throwing stuff at the bride/groom.
    • the receiving line.
    • anyone being “given away”; my wife and I walked down the aisle together.
    • the groom; it was a same-sex wedding.

    Post # 5
    1032 posts
    Bumble bee

    We’re ultra traditional so we are keeping everything but the receiving line.

    Post # 6
    14498 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are not doing the garter/bouquet toss nor the throwing stuff (never got that one).  I am sure there will be more things we ax as we get more threw the process.

    Post # 7
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We’re having a receiving line, but I’ve actually never been to a wedding with one before! J thinks it’s simpler, so … that’ll be okay. 🙂 We’ll be greeting a lot of our guests before the wedding too though, so I expect it to go quickly enough.

    So obviously the whole hiding the bride ordeal is one tradition we’re skipping. We’re also cutting tosses and still on the fence about whether my dad or J will walk me down the aisle. Either way our parents (all of them) will offer their blessing on our marriage, but there will be no giving away or exchange of property. 🙂

    Alcohol free venue means no champagne toasts, and we’re not bothering with sparkling cider.

    Post # 8
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’re saying thanks, but no thanks to 

    -a church wedding or ceremony with any religion 

    -the garter toss and (probably) the bouquet toss

    -a veil or white shoes for me

    -a very traditional wedding cake (I’m making one moderate sized tiered cake and then a cake buffet) 

    -matching bridesmaid’s dresses

    -traditional vows (we’re writing our own) 

    -unity candle/sand


    So kind of a lot, I guess! It didn’t seem like much since most people leave a few of these out, but I guess written down it seems like we’re not that traditional after all.


    Post # 9
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We aren’t having:

    – Confetti / throwing stuff at us

    – A traditional cake.. we’re having one small tier for us to cut, and then cupcakes!

    – Church / Religious ceremony

    – Guestbook (hoping to have an instant-camera-kind-of setup)


    There are probably more, but I can’t think, lol.

    Post # 10
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We’re forgoing:

    – The garter/bouquet toss. With our small guest list, my Maid/Matron of Honor & one of my fiance’s friends are the only single girls we have, and we have no single dudes. We’re doing an anniversary dance instead.

    – A cake. My fiance has wanted cupckaes with a small cake for us to cut from the get-go, and I’m totally fine with that.

    – My dad walking me down the aisle (totally my choice…long story). We will still be doing a father/daughter dance though, because I didn’t want to exclude him completely. My Mom will be walking me down the aisle & she couldn’t be happier about it.

    – The receiving line. With our small guest list it’s really unnecessary. We’ll just visit everyone at the reception.

    Post # 11
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    No cake.

    No garter.

    No guest book.

    Post # 12
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We’re cutting:

    -the garter/bouquet toss
    -throwing studd at the bride&groom
    -a religious ceremony
    -receiving line
    -we’re first looking, so the aisle won’t be the first time he sees me in a white dress
    -traditional wedding cake

    Post # 13
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    not getting married in a church.
    Evening wedding (starting about 8pm)
    Not typical evening meal…almost midnight brunch instead
    no something old, new, etc…
    No fg/rb. All the children who are at the ceremony (sitter doesn’t start until cocktail hour) will parade down the aisle
    Sitting in a square arrangmenet instead of typical aisle
    Doing a candle lighting ceremony instead of the typical unity candle.
    First look.

    Post # 14
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    ohhh also
    Bm are not carrying bouquets. They are adults they know what to do with their hands.
    Bridal Party is not standing for ceremony, they will walk down the aisle and then be seated.
    I’m wearing gold studded Loubs, that’s gotta be non-traditional

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