Post # 1
Fiance and i are planning a dw in the usvi, and r pretty certain only immediate family will end up attending. if we have 20 ppl show i will be shocked. in light of this, im curious what traditional elements you ladies just didnt do because of such a small amount of guests attended?
for example, i dont see the point in a bouquet or garter toss if we have no bridal party (by choice, and pretty much the reason we chose a dw like this) or lots of single friends. or the whole dance floor DJ thing. i kinda want the father/daughter dance and mother/son dance, and a beautiful grand cake and cutting, and a sit down dinner, but i think it will be weird without the other traditions.
we do not want the ceremony to suffer just because it is a dw, so i still plan to spend alot on the decor and venue, i want that to be very traditional (minus bridal party) with maybe just a flower girl and ring bearer. but i feel like the reception will look weird if it includes some, but not all, of the traditional peices. should i go for all of them or just a nice dinner with nothing else?
Post # 3
I know exactly how you feel! We’re having a Destination Wedding in Punta Cana. We have 21 (including ourselves) booked and ready to go. We’re not having a bridal party either, except for a best man, and maid of honor. It seemed silly to have practically half of the guests as the bridal party, as we have very close family and friends attending.
We are however having a reception with a DJ and buffet dinner. My friends and family like to dance and have a great time so we figured we would still have a reception. We’re not doing a garter toss or having a cake. The Fiance and I aren’t big on the whole cake cutting thing, it really it was a cost that for us at least, wasn’t necessary.
I think you should try to make a list of what is important to you on that day, and not what is typical at a weddings.
A money saving tip- we’re taking our own centerpieces…. We thought it was silly to spend money on flowers that people couldn’t even take home! Even the flowers for the ceremony gazebo, we are taking with us ; )
Post # 4
We are going to have about 15 people for our Destination Wedding wedding. We aren’t doing the tosses either. We are also not having a DJ or a bar. We want to do a first dance and a cake cutting though. I don’t think that we are doing favor either.
Post # 5
@Handful and @izzy2525: awesome! so what will ur reception venues look like, r u using a restaurant, or using a small pavilion or something like that? i think with the place we r looking to use, we have to have a 4 hr minimum rental, and they have a gorgeous, fully capable covered open air pavilion for catering, etc. it would work for the grandest of receptions. i just dont know.
Post # 6
We are having a Destination Wedding in Negril, and it will also be small (probably under 20 people). I am not having any BMs or Maid/Matron of Honor, but will have flower girl and ring bearer (our children) and he is having a best man (don’t know how that will work out since i don’t have a MOH). We wont have bouquet or garter toss, but we will have: photographer, cocktail hour, open bar, a la carte dinner, cake cutting, first dance and dj, favours, floral centerpieces. I think dj will just be more for background music as i doubt anyone will dance. using fresh flowers for bouquet and centerpieces will be pricey but it still wont be too much as we wont have many tables with so few guests. I have no idea if anyone will want to do a speech but we will make a speech to thank our guests that were able to attend.
Do whatever you feel comfortable doing and don’t do anything you don’t want to but feel you need to for tradition. If i wasn’t such a big cake lover we would have removed it from the list as i hear no one even eats cake anyway. But i do.
Post # 7
We are planning to do a cruise and having a DW/ beach wedding in St Thomas. No bridal party, no tosses, but I would like to have a reception with a dance and cake cutting. We are planning to keep it at 25.
Post # 8
@ Chyna2012: +1, we are doing similar thing, except for DJ, we will organise music by ourself using Ipod, as I doubt anyone will dance too (probably 30 guests, and 15 are from my family who I know wont dance). We dont have any bridal party, no Bestman because FH doesnt want to choose, but we will have speech to thank you guests by FH, and a speech from his best friend.
Post # 9
We’re having a less than 20 people destination wedding (well, for everyone but the groom). We’re really not doing any traditional wedding things, partly because of the size but also because they weren’t things we liked or were comfortable with. We’re having a private dinner with our guests after at a restaurant, but not having a full reception with cake cutting, dancing, garter/bouquet stuff or anything like that. We’re really just doing ceremony, dinner + booze, and cake (or cupcakes).