What "traditional" wedding things did you do along with eloping?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018


We cut the cake

He carried me over the threshold

and we spirited away for our honeymoon the next day.

Post # 4
24 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m gonna do the whole “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a penny in your shoe” thing.  I’m wearing a white dress (although not a wedding dress) and I think I’m going to carry flowers.

Post # 5
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

first look (I guess more a modern tradition)

bouquet and boutonniere

ring exchange

something old/borrowed/blue/new

wedding cake (although the maître d’ cut it up for us before we could!)

carried me over the thresshold

registry (only after MIL nagged and nagged about it)

Post # 6
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’d like to still do a wedding dress, photos, wedding announcements, and honeymoon!!  No registry, shower, or bach party stuff though, since no one will know it’s going to happen.

Post # 7
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I did pretty much everything, just no registry.  But I picked a big bridal party for a big wedding, so I figured we might as well have a little fun with them 😛

Post # 8
43 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

Dress, flowers, cake, announcements… I might do the something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, but I haven’t figured out how to “borrow” something without people catching on to what we’re doing. (Our families and friends are far away so if I asked to “borrow” something, they’d wonder.)

Post # 9
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I still had my “something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue”. Also, these are the traditions we still followed 🙂

  • Got ready sepearately. Our photographer called me when they were in place ready for me to come down for the first look so we could walk to the beach together.


  • I still had my dream wedding dress


  • We did elopement announcements


  • Ring exchange


  • Cake


We didn’t do parties or anything even though we were planning our original day for August 4. Parties just aren’t really our thing, which is why this worked out perfectly I guess! 


Post # 10
1425 posts
Bumble bee

We’re having a pretty traditional wedding, just without any guests. 😉 After our ceremony, we’ll enjoy a catered meal, wedding cake, and our first dance. We’re currently planning our mini-moon.

@stephee:  No registry, shower, or bach party stuff though, since no one will know it’s going to happen. +1

Post # 11
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

We are doing a first look, exchanging rings, going on a honeymoon right after, doing engagement photos, having wedding cupcakes, and…I think that’s it actually.

We are shopping for my dress together, spending the weekend together in a suite, writing our own vows, and pretty much breaking every other “rule.”

ETA: If I can think of something old, new, borrowed, and blue then I will. Otherwise, I won’t stress over it. I have never heard of a penny in your shoe and Canada eliminated pennies. I am SOL on that one.

Post # 12
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR & I are Encores, and older.

When we got engaged (modern ERing) we announced by Inviting Friends out for Drinks the day we picked up my ERing.

Our Wedding was an Elopement vs having a regular Family Wedding.

Just the 2 of us saying our Vows & Exchanged Rings (and Watches) on a Beach, at a Destination Wedding location that we love.

Because everyone knew we were going to get married over the Christmas Holidays, our Friends threw us a Couples Shower.  That was an awesome surprise (didn’t anticipate / expect a Shower as an Encore Bride)

I wore a Wedding Dress… and did the Something Old, New, Borrowed & Blue

No one to “toss the bouquet” to, so I gave it to the wonderful Hotel Front Desk Staff at our Wedding Night Hotel, who had been so nice to us on the phone when I made our Reservations, put Complimentary Bubbly in our Room when we arrived, and answered / helped out with a dozen other small things (like a Hair Dresser Recommendation, arranged for Taxis etc)

We went on a very classic Honeymoon… Caribbean Cruise

And came home afterwards to a Back Home Reception… an smallish event for Friends & Family… an Evening Party… Cocktails & Hors d’ouevres – Cake & Champagne – DJ & Dancing

It was perfect.

Laughing *STILL SMILING… 8 months later*


Post # 13
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

MrsPanda99: I would send you an american penny, ha!!  We still use them for no good reason.

Post # 13
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013
  • We were married in a Chapel
  • Wore a big ass dress 
  • Carried Flowers 
  • Something old, new, borrowed, blue
  • exchanged rings  
  • Had a photography session 
  • Shared a meal together 
  • My family and friends threw me a surprise bridal shower (was very unexpected and made me feel loved and thought of even though we werent having an at home wedding) 

Basically was a full wedding just sans people there with us.

I dont regret the decision to elope at all! 

Post # 14
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012
  • We had a photographer
  • I did the something old/new/etc.
  • I had a bouquet, but really only brought it for the pictures
  • Ring exchange
  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  GFerg.
Post # 15
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000

musician32992:  Nothing.

I got married in a nightgown, we found our witnesses 30 minutes before, we have no rings, we swam in the ocean in our clothes afterward, and told a few people 18 months afterwards. Some still don’t know.

I like how weddings can be whatever you want them to be nowdays. For me, that definitely meant giving “traditional” a miss.

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