Post # 1
Just for fun, how would you describe yourself in the bride role?
I am totally laid back! I actually thought I would be a bridezilla or moderately controlling when I got engaged, but surprisingly I am so cool about everything. I’m usually a very good decision-maker, but when it comes to the wedding I’m the “I don’t care” type in a good way. Not picky! Whatever happens, happens. My parents are loving me for this. 🙂
Post # 3
I said moderately controlling.. but im really btween that and laid back.. I think that so far i have been great and laid bac but i know that when the time comes to pull everything together I will want it my vision.. but wont get upset if its not. hard to describe.
Awesome post! i am really interested in what everyone thinks of themselves
Post # 4
I wouldn’t consider myself a bridezilla, but I do like things the way I like them – which is why I hired a wedding planner to make sure everything is perfect 🙂 But I won’t throw a fit if something doesn’t go as planned – life happens and you just have to go with it.
Post # 5
@GeorgiaBride5: I’d say it varies… moderately controlling about some things (such as the budget! important! good dress alterations) and more laid back about others (what the programs look like, the color of the tableclothes) I think it’s best to pick your battles because if you try to micromanage you won’t enjoy it, you won’t even see it because you’re so busy directing! And it’s just a healthier lifestyle to be relaxed about things.
Post # 6
I had a couple bridezilla moments the day of in my head because some folks weren’t following the schedule but I gritted my teeth and kept it to myself 🙂
Post # 7
@GeorgiaBride5: I WAS completely disinterested in the ENTIRE thing..I just wanted to wear a pretty dress, have my Dad walk me down the aisle and get married…the rest of it was irrelevant. My mom planned the whole thing and I loved it, I was stress free and it looked great…I recommend that level of non-participation to all brides
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I was laid back with a lot of things: My groom picked one color for the theme and then I picked the accent color, I (tried to) let the bridesmaids pick their own dreses, I let my groom pick the tuxes, let him pick his ring too (duh?), the invitations came from a box kit from Office Depot, I skipped favors, was minimal with flowers, I let the venue use their pre-made centerpieces (mirror, vase, candle), I was very “whatever” about the things we registered for…
But there were some things I was a perfectionist/bridezilla about, mostly things that influenced myself only. I was picky as hell on my dress, shoes, and veil. Man, I searched and searched and searched for those things. I’ve always been a tomboy, so I wanted my one excuse to get really get fancy and wanted it to be perfect. I also kind of got really sad when my hair/makeup turned out nothing like I hoped. The girl was just not very good at styling hair with my texture (I’ve done a better job hundreds of times myself – my hair responds really well to heat treatments if you just brush it first but she didn’t), and her makeup airbrushing was very, very heavy. I never said anything, but I kept my veil on all night because I was embarrassed about my frizzy ratty hair.
I also confided to my husband and bridesmaid about how disappointed I was with how many people no-showed after RSVPing yes. It just really hurt my feelings, especially since we paid for 20 meals that no one showed up to eat. I never confronted the people about it, but still.
So, in summation: I was a control freak about a lot of things, but sort of “in secret” – I kept my manners, but I did secretly care a lot about the things that went wrong.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I was an organized hostess bride. Plan everything to the nth degree, hire vendors who are ultimate professionals and who completely understand my vision, and then get out of their way so they can do their job. As for our bridal party/family/guests, I viewed it as our job to take care of them, not the other way around. I wanted to make it easy for them, so that’s what I did. Did I have my freakouts? You betcha. Did anyone other than the Bee ever know about them? Nope. The wedding was my problem, and I was responsible for dealing with it so that it didn’t become anyone else’s problem.
Post # 10
Moderately. I’m very nontraditional, but also type A/organized/crafty. No one else I know is. I haven’t minded doing anything, but I have had freakouts when vendors have been off.
Post # 11
I was very laid back but also very organised. But then we planned our wedding in 3 weeks so there wasn’t time to prevaricate, let alone turn into a bridezilla!
Post # 12
@GeorgiaBride5: I wish I could be more laid back like you! I’m in more of the ‘moderately controlling’ category
Post # 13
Generally very laid back and relaxed except when talking to my mother who has very strong ideas about what I want for my wedding (without every actually asking me what I want) so every wedding conversation with her is a chore and I do end up being difficult.
I have ideas what I want but I’m not worried about it being perfect and romantic, I want it to look nice but primarily I want it to be fun.
Post # 14
I’m a virgo, so uptight is my middle name. I’d like to think I’ve been fairly good though…moderately controlling. I like to plan things, but I trust my vendors and I’m not really super picky.
Post # 15
The poll isn’t work on my computer. Bah!
I’m definitely more the laid-back bride. There are things I’ve been really particular about (my wedding band was customized because I wanted it to look an exact, specific way – but I’m wearing it for the next 60+ years, so I think it’s ok to be picky about htat) but they’ve been few and far between. I’ve lucked out with great vendors, too; I’ve been able to give them a general idea of the colours/vibe/theme we’re working with, and they’ve come up with awesome things.
I’ve seen too many brides freak out and ruin what should be an amazing time in their lives, so I’m definitely trying to avoid that. It’s not in my nature to freak out anyway though, to be honest. Either you can fix something (in which case, why stress?) or you can’t (in which case, why stress?); either way, getting bent out of shape won’t help matters. Also, I’ve seen some brides lose friends/family relationships because of their super controlling, me me me bridezilla behaviour, and that’s heartbreaking. It’s a big, spectacular, important day, but it’s a DAY – what comes after the day is over is huge.
I’m always thrilled to read recaps about brides whose days went beautifully (with hiccups or not). Some things can’t be helped, and I always have a lot of admiration for brides who are able to roll with the punchs on their big day. That’s definitely what I’m aiming for.
Post # 16
I always thought I’d be the laid back, but in control/organized bride. Well if I didn’t have so many things go wrong (i.e. my venue being sold, my florist falling off the face of the earth, and my invitations person going MIA) I would have been…
I didn’t end up a bridezilla but I had my fair share of freak-out moments. My poor (new) florist literally had to call me and reassure me everything would be ok. I believe her exact words were “don’t worry or stress, I will walk on water to make your wedding perfect”. Needless to say, she’s quite awesome. Lol.
I’ve also been a little less laid back because of my mother. She’s very, let’s say, high strung and sometimes I just want to scream “back up woman!”. I’ve also gotten to the point where I no longer care about certain little things. Like I no longer want to do favors, too late I already bought them (damn!). I don’t care about renting chairs for the ceremony anymore, but my mom is adament about that one!
I’ve found that I actually now hate to talk about the wedding, with the exception of venting about it on here. Every.single.time. my phone rings, it’s my mother asking me something about the wedding. And this happens at least twice a day.