I think a lot of Women “believe” they’d like a Hollywood Proposal… the stuff that you see in the Movies or on Tv
Flash Mob – The Jumbotron at “the Game” – In the middle of a Posh Restaurant – A Hotel Room filled with 1000s of Flowers etc.
In reality, most of us don’t get that…
Most Proposals are just done one-on-one as intimiate moments between two people, perhaps in a spot that is in someway special to the two of them… or on a special day… or vacation… or even on a regular day “just at home”
There is NO RIGHT OR WRONG
Every Proposal is a good one in that ultimately all that mattered happened… One Person pledged their Love to the other Forever, and “proposed” the idea of Marriage… and the Other Person Accepted / Agreed
I got pretty much a Non-Proposal from my First Husband, back when we were fresh faced Uni Grads… we just talked about Marriage and agreed… he gave me a Promise Ring… with “the promise” that an ERing would follow once he had made some / saved some money from his First Full-time Job after Graduation… and he was true to his word. At the end of August we went looking for Rings, found one… and bought it. He placed it on my finger, and we were Officially Engaged… there was no down on bended knee, and no huge expression of Love.
Did I miss that… ya somewhat. But in the end all that mattered was we were married, and so it was for over 20 Years.
This time round…
I have to say a wee bit of me wished for a Hollywood Proposal… in so much I think a lot of Women daydream about them. How romantic.
In the end my Proposal from Mr TTR was a lot more wordy / emotional than the one I got from my Ex, but it too was very low key
Was I disappointed ? Ya maybe a tad, for about 5 seconds… but I was sooo thrilled that the moment had finally came that I quickly forgot my hang-up about not having a “photo op” type of moment (again no bended knee)
And I was getting more than I did the first time… so that was a HUGE POSITIVE !!
Looking back, now married to someone who treats me well, and makes me soooo very happy, I’d have to say that the Proposal is just a tiny tiny part of our whole Relationship History… and definitely not “the meat” to the sandwich
In the end, I got a Proposal that truly fits the couple / people we are. It happened on vacation in a place we both LOVE, and it was a wonderful day. That is what I take away from it all… it was PERFECT FOR US. No Regrets.
And the thought now of a Hollywood-ish Proposal honestly I am very thankful that didn’t happen to me. I couldn’t imagine having to go thru such a special moment that is just about the 2 of us infront of a mob of people. Just doesn’t fit OUR Style. I think I would have died if he had done something so vastly different from who we truly are.