What type of proposal did you want?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: What type of proposal do/did you want?
    Public : (13 votes)
    7 %
    Private : (107 votes)
    61 %
    Family included : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Friends included : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I want EVERYONE there! Flash mob and all! Let's have a parade! : (9 votes)
    5 %
    Didn't care as long as he just asked! : (40 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I got the best of both worlds!

    He proposed while it was the two of us at Niagara Falls (overlooking the Bridal Veil Falls), then surprised me with a small engagement party with all our closest friends that night!

    It was amazing!

    Post # 4
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    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I wanted a private, intimate proposal and I got a private, intimate proposal. It was in a park under a tree, so there were a few other people walking around on the path, but nobody bothered us or stared.

    My rule was basically no flashy public flash mobs or jumbo tron proposal in a sports arena. It’s just too much for me.

    Post # 5
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    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I didn’t care about the where, but I wanted to be serenaded. I sing, it’s a hobby, a job, a passion. I love it. Everyone expects me to sing for him at the wedding or to have sung to him when I proposed. That’s just so expected from me, though, it would have no meaning. I would love for him to step outside his comfort zone and sing to me. That would have been amazing.

    Post # 6
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    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I wanted a quiet private proposal. While I did get one, I largely orchestrated it so…I guess the control freak in me took over once again lol.

    Post # 7
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    528 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @GiantJelly:  He may not be subtle, but at least he’s making an effort!

    Post # 8
    Member
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I just wanted a proposal.  My dream was to have it in front of the castle at Disneyland, it ended up being by the bathrooms at the side of the castle.  Close enough for my dreams!  I just knew I didn’t really want a huge flash mob with tons of people I didn’t know.  I would have liked a picture, but that didn’t happen.  Still he was totally with it when we went three times in one night to the photo pass people to get a good photo. Pretty much I juat wanted one!

    Post # 9
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    1491 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I really didn’t care about what kind of proposal it was or how it was done. I am not someone who cares about the proposal being some “story” to tell people.   I just wanted an honest proposal, heartfelt.   

    Post # 10
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    436 posts
    Helper bee

    I just want a proposal that includes my kids! They have been such a huge part of our relationship. They actually went on our first date with us, he’s always been big on including my children. So I couldn’t/can’t imagine a proposal without them!!!

    Post # 11
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    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Marriage was never really on my radar so I was shocked when he proposed. He made it very private, outdoors, but with no one else around. In retrospect, I realize that if it had come up beforehand, intimacy would have been my only request. I’m so glad he didn’t make it a public affair! 

    Post # 12
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    5483 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @PeachSnapple:  +1000 and fwiw, when someone cares only about the story, its quite obvious when they tell it, at lease in my experience.

    Post # 13
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    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think a lot of Women “believe” they’d like a Hollywood Proposal… the stuff that you see in the Movies or on Tv

    Flash Mob – The Jumbotron at “the Game” – In the middle of a Posh Restaurant – A Hotel Room filled with 1000s of Flowers etc.

    In reality, most of us don’t get that…

    Most Proposals are just done one-on-one as intimiate moments between two people, perhaps in a spot that is in someway special to the two of them… or on a special day… or vacation… or even on a regular day “just at home”

    There is NO RIGHT OR WRONG

    Every Proposal is a good one in that ultimately all that mattered happened… One Person pledged their Love to the other Forever, and “proposed” the idea of Marriage… and the Other Person Accepted / Agreed

    I got pretty much a Non-Proposal from my First Husband, back when we were fresh faced Uni Grads… we just talked about Marriage and agreed… he gave me a Promise Ring… with “the promise” that an ERing would follow once he had made some / saved some money from his First Full-time Job after Graduation… and he was true to his word.  At the end of August we went looking for Rings, found one… and bought it.  He placed it on my finger, and we were Officially Engaged… there was no down on bended knee, and no huge expression of Love.

    Did I miss that… ya somewhat.  But in the end all that mattered was we were married, and so it was for over 20 Years.

    This time round…

    I have to say a wee bit of me wished for a Hollywood Proposal… in so much I think a lot of Women daydream about them.  How romantic.

    In the end my Proposal from Mr TTR was a lot more wordy / emotional than the one I got from my Ex, but it too was very low key

    Was I disappointed ?  Ya maybe a tad, for about 5 seconds… but I was sooo thrilled that the moment had finally came that I quickly forgot my hang-up about not having a “photo op” type of moment (again no bended knee)

    And I was getting more than I did the first time… so that was a HUGE POSITIVE !!

    Looking back, now married to someone who treats me well, and makes me soooo very happy, I’d have to say that the Proposal is just a tiny tiny part of our whole Relationship History… and definitely not “the meat” to the sandwich

    In the end, I got a Proposal that truly fits the couple / people we are.  It happened on vacation in a place we both LOVE, and it was a wonderful day.  That is what I take away from it all… it was PERFECT FOR US.  No Regrets.

    And the thought now of a Hollywood-ish Proposal honestly I am very thankful that didn’t happen to me.  I couldn’t imagine having to go thru such a special moment that is just about the 2 of us infront of a mob of people.  Just doesn’t fit OUR Style.  I think I would have died if he had done something so vastly different from who we truly are.

     

    Post # 14
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    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I never really had specific expectations for a proposal. I knew FI wanted it to be private, since the wedding would be public, and I’m happy he did it that way.

    Post # 15
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    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    A heartfelt one. I wasn’t really picky (actually I didn’t really care at all) how private or public or elaborate or low-key, but it was important to me that he take it very seriously and be fully aware and committed to what he was asking.

    Once we got to the location he determined would be perfect, on the day he decided would be perfect (that took a while), he very awkwardly delayed for two hours, working up the nerve, and his voice and hands were trembling, as he recited a speech he had written and memorized for the occasion. So yeah, he took it as a pretty important moment. It was everything I ever could have hoped for!!!! 😀

    The worst proposal for me would have been one of those ones where the proposer pretends he may have just died or become severely injured, horrifying the proposee. But then he isn’t, it was totally fake and just look at her face, haha! Marry me?

    I’d punch an A-hole like that in the face and never see him again, and my FI says that would be too kind of a treatment for such a person.

    Post # 16
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    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @GiantJelly:  i wanted a proposal that was unexpected. And thats what i got. It was on a random saturday, non holiday, non birthday. It was amazing. I didnt even know he was shopping for a ring. And the best part…he used our dog Daisy as a prop lol

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