Post # 1
My FI and I have decided to keep the rehearsal dinner really low key. We were going to go all out since we have quite a few of out of town guests but the dollar dollar bills just kept racking up! We have now decided to have it at our fav mexican restaurant (really I suggested it because they have the most awesome margs which I will need) really low key and everyone is pitching in. My FI and I are paying for about 20% of the wedding and then the parents are paying for the rest so we really didn’t want to burden them with thing for them to write a check for. FI and I will take care of all the drinks, pitchers of margs and beer and then everyone else will pitch in for their dinners. What are you doing?
Post # 3
We had a very casual dinner with about 20 family members at a local Italian place. My in-laws paid, so we deferred the choices to them. 🙂
Post # 4
My FILs are paying for the dinner, they decided on the place, its bbq. I’m thinking there will be drinking involved too, not sure though b/c they havn’t included me in the planning, but hopefully as it gets closer I’ll get the 411.
BTW, random question, but do we (the bride) create the rehearsal dinner invites? I’ve seen Bees on here make them, but I’ve also seen the in-laws make them too….
Post # 5
FILs are hosting a formal dinner that i think is going to be soooo much fun! we have a whole floor to ourselves (parents, grandparents, bridal party + dates) for three hours, plus open bar. the food at this place is really amazing and it’s going to be so nice to have an intimate, but really celebratory gathering to kick off the weekend!
the plan is to then park ourselves at a local bar for oot guests to drop by if they want (non-hosted) so we get to see people, without budgeting for a huge rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
My fiance and I have two options we’re considering. Either way, the guest list will consist of the bride & groom (2), the wedding party (2), the parents and siblings (6), and the grandparents (4), for a total of 14 people. Oh! And our friend who will be officiating, for a total of 15 (16 if she wants to bring a guest). Now, I WOULD invite the out-of-towners, except that most of our guests are from out of town — our families have kind of spread out. The only people in town will be us, the wedding party, our parents and siblings, two of the grandparents, a couple friends, and one cousin and his wife. Out of 80-ish people. So inviting the out-of-town guests is not going to happen.
Option one (the expensive option; this could easily cost $2000) is that we have a small, intimate rehearsal dinner at my favourite restaurant, the Hardware Grill. However, I don’t know if we can justify doing this when our total wedding budget without the rehearsal dinner is inching closer and closer to $4000. Increasing our budget by 50% just for a rehearsal dinner is not an idea that I like.
Option two is that we have a rehearsal dinner that’s more budget-friendly and in-line with the tone of our wedding: we host the dinner at my parent’s house. They have an awesome backyard we could practice the ceremony in, there’s extra fold-out tables and chairs, we could do BBQ, or we could cook up a storm of ethnic foods. Best of all? Free, hooray! And it gives us a chance to practice wiring the outdoor speakers for the wedding. =) My dad and fiance will have so much fun with that!
Post # 7
We’re doing a fairly large dinner (~70 people) and including everyone in both of our families as well as bridal party & dates. My FH’s family is all from out of town, so it was important for them to see each other as muc has possible. I wanted my family to also be involved so it wasn’t all one-sided. I think it will be a great way for our families to meet each other!!
Post # 8
We’re doing dinner at a hole-in-the-wall Mexican place that is pretty close to our venue. The food is amazingly good and the prices are very reasonable. My dad offered to pay, so now that leaves a little more room in the budget, since we don’t have to pick up the cost of the rehearsal dinner.
I don’t think you have to create any rehearsal dinner invites, but it would probably help. I think I’m just going to buy some generic invitations and send them to the people who need to be there. I’ve spent enough time and energy with paper products this year! Ü
Post # 9
I’m thinking pizza after the rehearsal sounds like an awesome idea. We’re not having a fancy, formal wedding so why have a fancy, formal rehearsal dinner? I want fun!!
Post # 10
luxury bowling with fancy buffet for 100 or so people.
Post # 11
Our FIL’s are hosting our rehearsal dinner, its about 65 people so it could be another wedding! It is going to be on the Queen Mary in Long Beach with hors d’ oeuvres and a sit-down meal. The room is great Im really looking forward to it!
Post # 12
We are going to our pizza hang out Old Chicago.. its our spot! We thought it would be low key and fun and yummy!
Post # 13
We’re all going to the area’s biggest Chinese buffet!
Post # 14
We’re having a lakeside BBQ! Our wedding is an in-province destination so we wanted something casual and easy. Plus we love a good BBQ! 😉
@bluedec – what’s luxury bowling? Sounds fun!
Post # 15
I just had an "aha" moment thanks to what samisomsam said!
We are having a fancy schmancy reception… so why not have pure fun!? And truthfully pizza & beer is my FI through & through. He’s not a fussy guy & all the wedding hooplah will probably have him on edge anyway. I think we’re going to just have pizza & beer with all our OOT guests & my closest loved ones.
Omigosh! I WISH we had an Old Chicago where I live. I’d totally have our rehearsal dinner there.. I’m jealous nc80120!
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
We had a casual dinner — immediate family and wedding party only at Mr. Bee’s favorite restaurant. It ended up costing more than we expected because of all the alcohol everyone ordered!