Post # 1
My FI and I have been engaged for about 6 months, but I don’t have a ring yet because we want to get it made. I am in love with a Tacori ring but can’t justify paying that much for a name.
I’ve read about other stones on here besides diamond, such as moisannite. I probably spelled that wrong.
My question is, is a diamond really necessary? I’m not a very fussy girl, but I do still want a beautiful, sparkly ring. Can I really get the look of a diamond without the price?
Post # 3
Yes, you can get the look of a diamond without the price, but be prepared to either pass off your diamond alternative as a diamond, or explain what it is when people start asking about it. Personally if I didn’t want a diamond I’d choose something that couldn’t be mistaken for one, but that’s just me. There are tons of beautiful gemstones out there that make excellent engagement rings.
I’d recommend seeing a moissanite in real life before you commit to one, though, as some people who want it to look exactly like a diamond are disappointed.
There are tons of moissanite threads on here so I recommend doing a search and a bit of research.
Post # 4
@mrsmeyers84: Look into these settings by Scott Kay http://www.google.com/search?q=scott+kay+heaven's+gate&client=safari&hl=en&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=llTKUeHmMMXCigKno4GADA&ved=0CAkQ_AUoAA&biw=768&bih=928
Thats who designed my setting and it has beautiful craftsmanship. Helzberg carries some of his rings too. They’ll also order you in a moissanite to see in person if you go in and ask.
Post # 5
@mrsmeyers84: most people IRL are not as observant as the bees. If it’s a clear, sparkly diamond shaped stone… people will assume it’s a diamond. I’ve heard of tons of bees moissies passing as diamonds and even tested positive as a diamond when checked by a jeweler
Post # 6
No, having a diamond isn’t necessary. In fact, one doesn’t have to have any kind of stone whatsoever on their engagement ring or even have an engagement ring in the first place. But I definitely understand wanting something sparkly.
With regards to moissanite, there are three different kinds: moissanite, Amora moissanite and Forever Brilliant moissanite. It also comes in different colours. I echo the other PPs who stated that you should try and see one in person to determine if that is what you want. Alternatively, I’d highly recommend searching for threads here or on the Betterthandiamond forums to see real-life pics and to read about other people’s experiences with them.
Post # 7
@mrsmeyers84: I agree with those above. Of course no ring is necessary.
It’s personal. I prefer the uniqueness of a billion year old, one of a kind natural from the earth, ethically sourced diamond over a man made jewel for such a special ring as engagement /wedding.. However many women are happy with alternatives/simulants that look very similar to diamonds. CZ &Moissanite are both beautiful and very affordable at a fraction of the cost of a comparatively sized high quality ethical diamond.
So yes, the long answer is that you can get the look of a diamond without paying the high price. When it’s all said and done, if it’s in an engagement type setting on your left hand, most people will assume it’s a diamond….
PS. I don’t have a Tacori but I don’t think people are necessarily paying for “just a name” either. There is a certain level of quality, service and exceptional design that one typically receives with certain brands.Which is a big part of the reason the brand becomes coveted in the first place.
Post # 8
Of course I would love to have a diamond, but we bought a house around the time we got engaged and ended up paying more for the down payment and closing costs then we expected. The original budget for my ring was $5000 and it still is, but there is just so many more things to spend the money on. I’m very torn right now.
I also wanted a custom ring because the Tacori I love has a split shank(?) with tiny diamonds on the side and having those there scare the bejesus out of me. I’m so terrified they would fall out and I’d rather have the total weight be all center stone anyways. http://www.tacori.com/engagement/2518rd65.html
Post # 9
Check out verragio rings You Can buy them in a set or just the e-ring very detailed rings which seems to be trendy now. And to answer your question no it doesn’t have to be a diamond you should pick any gemstone that you will cherish forever. Good luck 😉
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
The only thing I will say about Tacori is that they are as slow as molasses and that everything you do to alter a ring of theirs will cost $. I have a setting (2604) modified for an emerald (it’s meant for a round) and the slight modification cost $300. it also took 8 weeks to get made. Whatever stone you set in it, be sure you love it because it will be s-l-o-w and will likely not be free if you want to reset it down the line. To answer your original question, no one NEEDS a diamond, strictly speaking. It all depends on what you want and what you think you will love over the long haul. I’m sure whatever you choose will be gorgeous!
I would also echo PPs that Verragio, Scott Kay and Rittani also have gorgeous settings that are similar in style. That, and Blue Nile seems to be coming out with more choices every time (Their Monique Lhuiller collection seems to be very detail-oriented).
Post # 11
I didn’t end up with a diamond. I’ve oohed and ahhed over them for years, but when I tried them on I just didn’t feel like they were me. They were too glitzy, too dainty, and the ones I liked were the same exact ones all my friends had. I wanted to be different so I toyed with the idea of colored stones. I was hesitant because it’s not traditional, and I was worried what people would think. I ended up with a 2 carat sapphire surrounded by diamonds, and I love it. It fits my personality so much more, and the compliments/support I’ve received from everyone was amazing. No one cared that there was no main diamond.
Post # 12
@mrsmeyers84: You are very smart to make owning a home a priority! For most people their home is their biggest asset and, over the course of time, it will rise in value (except when Wall Street types play around with the economy for their own personal benefit.)
I have been married for almost 30 years and, in my day, a 0.25ct to 0.5ct diamond was the norm. My original e-ring is a diamond 0.25ct E vvs1 in a simple Tiffany style cathedral setting. I wanted to upgrade the centre stone size and did a lot of research prior to purchasing. I considered an estate diamond (diamonds are not investments because their value drops exponentially once you’ve “walked off the lot” with it so you can get some deals on older diamonds), white saphire and moissanite.
I eventually chose an Amora enhanced moissanite because it is an ethical, environmentally friendly, sparkly white stone which resembles a diamond and the cost was more in line with what I wanted to spend. The Amora moissy is set in a Tiffany reproduction knife edge ring. To purchase a similar ring with a similar qualtiy diamond centre stone would be approximately $38,000 to $40,000. We are paying university tuition for our three boys because my husband and I want them to finish debt free – that is our priority. Now my oldest son and his GF are planning on getting engaged and they are busy saving for rings, a home and a wedding. After seeing my rings, they are getting moissanite ! So you definitely do not have to have a diamond as a center stone.
Previous posters have offered you sound advice – read through the moissy posts here on Weddingbee and also on the Betterthandiamond boards. You can order a loose stone to see for yourself if you like it. I am one of the bees whose stone tested positive multiple times for diamond despite the jeweller using a tester designed to pick out moissy and it has fooled a diamond dealer and a couple of jewellers! I like my rings and, if the moment is right, I tell people what the centre stone is, but truly for the average person it is nearly impossible to tell diamond and moissanite apart so if you don’t want to reveal anything you don’t have to.
By the way – Congratulations!
Post # 13
@mrsmeyers84: Great advice from the other bees! I just wanted to add that just because you don’t have a diamond in your engagment ring, it doesn’t make you any less engaged than someone with a diamond. You can have whatever you want… it’s your ring! At the end of the day, there are far more important things in life and in a marriage to worry about. As far as moissanite… if you’re wanting something sparkly at a fraction of the price, it’s the way to go! My ring has an Amora moissanite in a custom setting and I absolutely love it!! It just made sense for us to be practical about how much to spend on the ring because, as you mentioned, there are other things we can put that money towards. I ordered a loose stone just to make sure I would be happy with it. I made two posts with pics and reviews a few weeks ago if you want to read more.
Good luck and congrats!!
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I like color I went with a purpe color change sapphire :). No reason you have to have a diamond. I didnt want one :D.
Post # 15
@mrsmeyers84: I love Moissanite! It’s not a fake or alternate diamond. It’s a Moissanite! I love it because of the fire/brilliance, and of course the cost. I would never want a diamond if I could get a Moissanite. I have a 1/2c Moissy now, and I just ordered my 1.25c 5th anniversary Moissy!
Post # 16
@mrsmeyers84: Also check out Gabriel and Co. They have an awesome selection and some really reasonably priced settings, IMO. 🙂