What type of thank you would you be happy with for a wedding gift?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: The thank you should
    be a handwritten, personalized card : (56 votes)
    48 %
    should be a handwritten card, but a generic message is ok : (20 votes)
    17 %
    should be a personalized card, but typed is ok : (11 votes)
    9 %
    a card, typed generic message is ok : (0 votes)
    Any type of personalized message is ok, it doesn't have to be a card : (14 votes)
    12 %
    Any type of thank you is ok : (11 votes)
    9 %
    I'm happy without being thanked : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Other - explained below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2637 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    I never look for thank-yous so I am happy with nothing but when I do recieve a card, I am old school and would prefer handwritten and personalized. Typed and generic? What’s the point. If that’s the route, don’t even bother sending me one.

    Post # 5
    Member
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    Any type of written, personalized message – card, postcard, letter, email, etc – all qualify for full etiquette points from me.

    A personal phone call or in-person thank you doesn’t qualify for full etiquette points, but would still count for full friendship points.

    Any type of generic message, even handwritten, does not qualify for etiquette or friendship points.

    Complicated enough? Haha

    Post # 6
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    1- Handwritten and personalized

    2- Typed and personalized (Then printed out and mailed)

    That’s it. Everything else is impolite in my book!

    Post # 7
    Member
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    Any kind of personalized message – handwritten card, typed card, verbally in person or over the phone, FB, text message…. doesn’t matter to me. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee

    I unexpectedly received a thank you for attending a wedding.  I was thrilled because going there wasn’t easy. I think it was hand-written but I can’t be sure. I am just glad she took the time to let me know my presence was appreciated.

    As long as I know my gift is received,  I don’t need or expect an extra thank you.

    Post # 11
    Member
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @AB Bride:  Any type of thank you is fine with me, whether it’s written or verbal.  

    Actually, come to think of it, I’d prefer a verbal thank you.  That to me seems to take more effort.  Sure writing thank you notes takes ages, but it’s what’s generally expected.  So getting a thank you card in the mail doesn’t really mean all that much to me even when it’s hand written and personalized, because you may just be doing it out of obligation (even if it’s the polite thing).  I’d be quite happy with someone having said thank you to me over the phone or even in an email.

    That being said, DH and I hand wrote all of our Thank Yous.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would be okay with any kind of personalized message. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee

    @AB Bride:  As far as I can remember,  it has not happened yet. Anyway,  I usually give the gift in person, so one thank you is enough for me 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’d be happy with nothing more than a verbal thank you in person, I’m not picky. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @4cube:  exactly!!!

    I have been to A LOT of weddings over the past year and I have yet to receive a thank you. I am appalled. Especially since I have got all my thank you’s out within 2 weeks of receiving a card or gift!

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