Post # 1
Posted this in Family also but probably more suited here!
So our favourite idea is to elope to Hawaii and have a big party when we get back. My parents are not going to be able(health wise) to travel that far but I would still like to have them there and do something different. Part of me would still like to elope as having to get married in Europe is boring to me(from Ireland)
Fiances family are lovely people but a bit suffocating. They are a huge extended family,very tight knit and love doing things together whereas I’m a bit of a loner,tiny family(just parents,brother and 2nieces and 1 nephew). The thoughts of having to spend a week of a Destination Wedding with his family makes me itch. As I said they are lovely but they just want to all hang around together by the pool and I hate that.
The only thing keeping me from eloping is my parents but I’m just unsure.
We are not getting married for about 2.5-3 years and it will be completely non-religious.
Any ideas/theories most welcome, thanks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Dream Riviera Cancun Resort & Spa
I having to make the same desicion. We are strongly considering eloping in Mexico w/ just the two of us. My mother is trying to convince me otherwise. if I do change my mind, we’ll prob just have my parents, sisters, niece and nephew and his parents brother and maybe his grandmother. But like I said, I don’t want to deal with the headache of organizing travel arrangements and then deal w/ the “Why didn’t I get invited?” when we get back.
As of now, we are 90% for eloping by ourselves.
Post # 5
@JustNoelle: Thanks for that, its definitely given me food for thought. We’re the same, about 90% preference for eloping as long as I dont get too much of a guilt trip from my mom!!
Post # 6
If I could go back to when my fiance first proposed I would make the decision there and then to elope to Japan and get married there in a small, quiet and relaxed ceremony with maybe a couple of friends. This would be ideal for both of us. But everyone would have been extremely upset with us for doing that lol.
We’re having two quite large weddings this year, an Asian style one for his family and an English style one for mine. The quiet event in Japan remains a dream that will have to be quenched by a holiday there in the next couple of years.
If you’re seriously considering elopement then I’d say go for it. It probably saves a lot of stress 🙂
Post # 7
I think it would make everyone happy if you did an intimate “fake” ceremony for immediate family only then eloped to your honeymoon!
Post # 8
I am not for any fake wedding reenactments.
I say go elope make it your honeymoon, enjoy the time together.
Then have an “at home reception” – which is really a celebration party – not a reception.
Post # 9
@sienna76: I agree fake weddings to me are rude and I think a reenactment (whether you tell everyone you are already married or not) is a little silly. A vow renewal after marital problems or for big anniversaries then fine but a week/month/year after the actually wedding ceremony I would judge.
Elope and then invite everyone over for a BBQ/Party and suprise everyone. But if it is important to you to have your parents there then get married at home in a small intimate ceremony and have a brilliant honeymoon in Hawaii.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I voted for an elopement somewhere closer with your parents (maybe a lakeside resort if not Hawaii?). But if your parents are included, of course your FI’s should be too 🙂
Post # 11
We are doing just the parents and two persons on either side. The only reason we did nt elope in Negril Christmas was that we wanted the parents there. I do know how you feel about big family possibly being overwhelming, as I have one…lol
I would choose go somewhere with the parents if I were you