Post # 1
We’re only a week and a half into our marriage, but the thing that is taking the most adjustment so far for me is actually sleeping in the same bed with another person all the time. We didn’t live together prior to our wedding, and when one of us did stay the night it was only for a night or two since we were long distance. I’ve been hogging the whole bed for 29 years people! Totally caught me off guard how difficult it has been for me to sleep well with someone else in the bed every night.
Did you have any adjustments you never expected when you started living together/got married?
Post # 3
@smores: This should be interesting to see! We don’t live together either but one time FI was over when I was folding laundry and he was very concerned about the manner in which I folded shirts and towels. Something I never would have thought about!
Post # 4
For me it was having to consider another person when making household decisions. I never had a roommate before and had lived alone for 10 years. I never had to share anything in general, since I was the only girl in my family. So, when he had a differing opinion about curtains vs blinds, or where the couch went? Watch out! I was such a brat. I didn’t realize I was so inflexable. lol!
So learning to compromise was a huge adjustment for me. Luckily DH was married before, and had 2 sisters growing up, because he was already trained to be VERY flexable. 🙂
Post # 5
Lots of little things. How to load the dishwasher, what belongs in the fridge, how to fold towels/shirts/underwear, what goes in the dryer, how to squeeze toothpaste, how many times hitting “snooze” is acceptable
Post # 6
@chasesgirl: Sometimes I refold the towels after DH folds them The way he does it, they don’t fit as well in the closet. But I don’t want to seem OCD and tell him the “right” way to do it! Or turn him off from folding the laundry forever
Post # 7
DH is a slob. So our biggest adjustment was getting him to help around the house and not leave his dirty clothes, dishes, etc. everywhere. It is a work in progress 😉
Post # 8
@LGenz: Ooohhhh! The Snooze button was a biggie for Mr. Peach and I. He’ll snooze for a good half hour. I had to convince him to dial it back to 2 snoozes.
Post # 9
@chasesgirl: I’ve had to retrain DH how to fold clothes. He used to fold shirts in half, so you’d have a big crease down the middle. I hated it. I made him learn how to do it by folding the sides of shirts. He’s still not great at it (has to lay them on the floor) but he’s getting better.
Post # 10
@SuperKate: Haha, that’s how my FI taught *me* to fold shirts. Apparently I’d been creasing them for ages.
Post # 11
@SuperKate:my FI taught me to fold shirts. He is very OCD about those sorts of things lol.
Post # 12
My husband and I can’t agree on where to squeeze the tube of toothpaste (he’s very neat and squeezes from the bottom, I squeeze from wherever my hand lands when I grab it)…..so we have separate tubes of toothpaste. Weird, but it solved the problem.
Post # 13
lol you all need to get tootpaste squeezers. You just keep pushing the plastic thing up until the tube is gone.
Post # 14
-Keeping the house tidy ALL the time. DH is a neat/organizational freak! Apparently, I leave shoes and clothes everywhere 🙂
Post # 15
Sleeping the same bed was big for us. It’s been 3 months and we’ve been sleeping much better for the past month. DH wanted to lay right next to me but I prefer having more space. Therefore when he was right on top of me I would toss and turn much more often keeping him up. Now he lays on his half and I lay on my half (he used to take up 2/3 of the bed) and we both sleep much better.
Post # 16
@roxy821: Are we married to the same man?
I think there have been a few adjustments. We didn’t live together first either, so this is all new for us. I think sleeping in the same bed is a big one. We are both cover and bed hogs, so it’s been interesting sharing that space.
One of my big struggles is that DH is a SLOB. He leaves his clothes all over the house, dirty dishes and trash lying wherever they land… ugh. It drives me nuts. We are working on putting clothes in a hamper and dishes in the sink, but it’s not going well. He’s a slob and was raised by a slob so it’s a lifelong habit.