(Closed) What unexpected adjustments did you have?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@smores: This should be interesting to see! We don’t live together either but one time FI was over when I was folding laundry and he was very concerned about the manner in which I folded shirts and towels. Something I never would have thought about! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

For me it was having to consider another person when making household decisions. I never had a roommate before and had lived alone for 10 years. I never had to share anything in general, since I was the only girl in my family. So, when he had a differing opinion about curtains vs blinds, or where the couch went? Watch out! I was such a brat. I didn’t realize I was so inflexable.  lol!

So learning to compromise was a huge adjustment for me. Luckily DH was married before, and had 2 sisters growing up, because he was already trained to be VERY flexable.  🙂

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Lots of little things. How to load the dishwasher, what belongs in the fridge, how to fold towels/shirts/underwear, what goes in the dryer, how to squeeze toothpaste, how many times hitting “snooze” is acceptable

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@chasesgirl: Sometimes I refold the towels after DH folds them Embarassed The way he does it, they don’t fit as well in the closet. But I don’t want to seem OCD and tell him the “right” way to do it! Or turn him off from folding the laundry forever Smile

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

DH is a slob. So our biggest adjustment was getting him to help around the house and not leave his dirty clothes, dishes, etc. everywhere. It is a work in progress 😉

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@LGenz:  Ooohhhh! The Snooze button was a biggie for Mr. Peach and I. He’ll snooze for a good half hour. I had to convince him to dial it back to 2 snoozes.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@chasesgirl: I’ve had to retrain DH how to fold clothes. He used to fold shirts in half, so you’d have a big crease down the middle. I hated it. I made him learn how to do it by folding the sides of shirts. He’s still not great at it (has to lay them on the floor) but he’s getting better. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SuperKate: Haha, that’s how my FI taught *me* to fold shirts. Apparently I’d been creasing them for ages.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@SuperKate:my FI taught me to fold shirts. He is very OCD about those sorts of things lol.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My husband and I can’t agree on where to squeeze the tube of toothpaste (he’s very neat and squeezes from the bottom, I squeeze from wherever my hand lands when I grab it)…..so we have separate tubes of toothpaste.  Weird, but it solved the problem.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

lol you all need to get tootpaste squeezers. You just keep pushing the plastic thing up until the tube is gone.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

-Keeping the house tidy ALL the time.  DH is a neat/organizational freak!  Apparently, I leave shoes and clothes everywhere 🙂  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sleeping the same bed was big for us.  It’s been 3 months and we’ve been sleeping much better for the past month.  DH wanted to lay right next to me but I prefer having more space.  Therefore when he was right on top of me I would toss and turn much more often keeping him up.  Now he lays on his half and I lay on my half (he used to take up 2/3 of the bed) and we both sleep much better.  

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

@roxy821: Are we married to the same man?

I think there have been a few adjustments. We didn’t live together first either, so this is all new for us. I think sleeping in the same bed is a big one. We are both cover and bed hogs, so it’s been interesting sharing that space.

One of my big struggles is that DH is a SLOB. He leaves his clothes all over the house, dirty dishes and trash lying wherever they land… ugh. It drives me nuts. We are working on putting clothes in a hamper and dishes in the sink, but it’s not going well. He’s a slob and was raised by a slob so it’s a lifelong habit.

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