Post # 1
Which vendors are you tipping (poll)? How much (leave a comment)?
This is TheKnot’s advise and my notes in parenthesis:
* Wedding Planner: optional, up to $500 or nice gift (I am required to hire the venue’s day-of planner for $500. Since it was technically not a choice, do I still have to tip her? Do I need to pay for a vendor meal even though she works for the venue?)
* Makeup & Hair: expected, 15-25% (Agreed! If I am paying for my mom/FMIL/BM hair+makeup, do I pay the tip for them too?)
* Delivery people: expected, $5-10 (Sure, why not. But I might not see all of them! They’ll probably set up during the morning while the bridal party is getting ready and taking pics…)
* Officiant: expected, $50-100 (Whoa, is this on top of paying for their services?)
* Photog: unnecessary if photog is also the owner (I will not be tipping our photog, but plan on sending him a thank you card and possibly a small gift after the wedding.)
* Reception staff: optional, based on contract (Our venue includes 21% service charge, so I will not be tipping separately.)
* Band/DJ: optional & preferred, $20-25 per musician, $50-150 for DJ (Okay! No questions here.)
* Bartender: (nothing mentioned about the bartender on TheKnot. We’re having an open bar through the venue and the bartender is included. I’m assuming that the guests will tip the bartender, but do I need to give him/her something extra too?)
Post # 3
i got married at an all inclusive resort. i tipped the hair and makeup people, about $15 each. I tipped the wedding planner, about $50. I also gave the wedding planner $50 – 60 to give the dinner wait staff. Then I gave the bartender $20.
Post # 4
@dynamic_duo: Thanks for mentioning the bartender! Added to the poll!
Post # 5
I *think* that if you have an open bar, and you are paying for it, that your guests should NOT tip the bartender– you should leave the standard 20% tip on top of whatever your bill is. But, if your bartender does accept ANY tips, then you should not be obligated to tip on top of that (since you obviously could not know how much tip he had already received.) Which is why it just makes more sense for your guests to not even be allowed to tip him.
Post # 6
@red_rose: Yeah, that makes sense. I’m also paying a mandatory 21% service charge for the bar, so I guess no need to tip extra. Although at the weddings I’ve been to with open bar, the bartender always had a tip jar…and at one wedding, the DJ even made an announcement that tips for the bartender was appreciated (I thought it was kind of weird for an announcement to be made for something like that).
That being said, also makes sense for me to tip for hair+makeup for everyone. It’s like taking someone out to dinner and telling them they need to pay tip. Weird. Would’t make sense.
Post # 7
You are suppose to tip the vendors that do not own the business. So if they send one of their employees you are too tip them. If they come themselves (therefore making all profit) you do not have to tip.
Post # 8
@mwitter80: Thanks for the advise! I agree on not needing to tip vendors who own their own business.
But what about if the photographer who is the owner bring a 2nd shooter? If my photog pkg includes a 2nd photographer, do I need to tip him/her?
Post # 9
I only tip people who make a low wage and live off of tips. Banquet servers, bartenders, delivery people, ect. Basically people who don’t own the business.
Post # 10
Everyone but my catering staff, DJ, and bartenders are owners. Waitstaff have it built in their bill, so I will only be tipping the DJ and Bartenders.
My hair and make up person is a fmaily friend (VERY GOOD at her job) and is doing for free, wont take cash, so I am bringing her Harry potter tickets and a cert. for dinner.
But if I know my dad he will be tipping everyone; the Photog to the random friend with their hand out… lol…. when he drinks hes VERY generous.