What was the best advice you ever received about men…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You don’t know how committed a man is until he’s helped you though the flu.  – My mom (only in more colorful language).

I’d say it’s true because if a man sees you at your absolute worst and stays by your side that says a lot about him and your relationship.  It’s definately true in my relationship because there are days with neither of us are at our best, but we stick through it.

Post # 3
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Newbee

“You don’t know true love until you’re loved back”

I spent a few years of my life in a very much one sided relationship… my mom told me this, and she was so right. 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Pick a man that will fight for you rather than fight with you

My SO had to fight his mother A LOT when we became more serious. She still doesnt “love me,” but its better than what it was. She sees me as a threat since he is her only child and she wants him to live at home with her.

Post # 5
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Newbee

I am on th same page as redfishbluefish. I was in a 3 year one sided relationship and my father told me don’t mastake love with feeling sorry for someone. It wasn’t until I met TB that I knew what true love really is.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

“Make sure the sex is good.  You don’t wanna end up stuck with a man for 50+ years who can’t please you.”-MY MOM!!!  LOL

 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

More than 20 years ago, while I was in a bad relationship, my aunt explained to me that a good relationship would: 1) enhance my relationship with God; 2) enhance my relationship with other people; and 3) enhance my own well being.  There is much wisdom in that advice. I am thankful to say that my DH does all of those things.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, nothing. Everything I’ve ever been told has been some cliché or totally bullshit phrase that someone heard somewhere or read out of some ridiculous book (I’m looking at you, mom!)

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

my mom gave me this gem of a piece of advice…no joke, it was given as eloquently as: “don’t give him head if he wont give you head” LOL 

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I remember my mom saying a few things that stick with me – 

  • Live with a man at least 1 year before marrying him
  • you can tell a good man by his reaction to three things- lost luggage, tangled Xmas tree lights and how he treats his own mother 
  • never cry over a man that won’t cry over you
  • i still laugh at the one she always said when I was younger -“always chew gum and keep your legs crossed” lol
Post # 13
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Helper bee

When you are dating someone, take a hard look at the things they like about you, value in you, and draw out in you (whether meaning to or not). Then take a hard look at the things that you like about yourself, value about yourself, and would like to draw out in yourself.

If they aren’t the same things, they aren’t right for you.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

sarahalthea:  oh dear my DH fails on all of those!! we didnt know each other before dating, he has been known to make me cry and he is about as useful at DIY as a chocolate teapot!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I cry over anything, so I can’t really claim that my FI does or doesn’t make me cry, lol.

I also can’t say I remember any specific advice other than “pay attention to how a man treats restaurant staff”– or whatever it is. My FI does great on that score. One thing I really like about him is his temper. even in our worst fights, even when he’s most annoyed by other things, he never lets his temper get the best of him.

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