(Closed) What was the best thing “money couldn’t buy” in your wedding?

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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

mine is:

free hair updo from my friend—saves me $250; he works in afancy salon on fifth Avenue

Irish singer/friend will be singing at our wedding en gratis–my fiance only has 7 guests from england and Australia; so he will lvoe the surprise; the guy is  friend of ours

free–my niece will sing Ave maria at our ceremony she’s been practicing I’m already teary eyed, I just know  am going to bawl my eyes out day of

free–found a violinist to play for free at our wedding by signing up for  alocal classical music group; it’ll put an elegant touch

free— all my DIY–I love all my projects they are beautful personal and Free!!!my flower baskets, my guestbook my seating poster, my BM shawls, my place cards, my flwoers, my bouquets, my invitations, my menus, my programs, my favors

my dad walking me down the aisle–it symbolizes our family’s healing since he left my mom 14 years ago; he’s never been to any of my 3 siblings weddings

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

One of the biggest compliments I received about our wedding from a number of guests was, "This was the most relaxed, fun wedding I’ve ever been to." Which is exactly the atmosphere I was going for!

I feel like when weddings become too much of a production, it sucks all the joy out of them. When you’re relaxed and go with the flow, everyone else will be too, and that shows!

The music was the thing that really made the wedding. We chose fairly unconventional songs for our ceremony (one even had the crowd laughing), which I’ll share with you all later, but that really created the mood that I wanted.

Our vows were gorgeous and so meaningful. They were traditional, with a twist, written by our pastor.

I just think everything came together in a way that was relaxed and laid back, yet beautiful and meaningful. It wasn’t about the details, or the centerpieces, or the dress- it was about the love of family, friends, and the love Mr. PP and I have for each other. Everything else was just icing on the cake.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

What a great topic to discuss. I will keep reading these as new comments are posted! My wedding is October 24th so after I will tell WeddingBee all of my answers.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

What a great thread!  I’d love to contribute….

  1. What, regardless of cost, was/will be the most beautiful part of your wedding?
  2. What was/will be the most beautiful cheap/free thing?
  3. What was/will be the least necessary high-money-value thing?
  4. What did your guests comment favorably on the most, and how much (percentage of budget or dollar value) did it cost?

1. I think the most beautiful part of our wedding was the setting.  We got married on a private ranch in the Tetons in Jackson Hole, Wyoming.  Surrounded by mountains, in a field of wildflowers, with a view of a mountain stream – the setting was unbelievable. 

2.  See #1 above!

3.  This one is so hard!  I really felt like we spent our money wisely and that everything was worth the price.  Perhaps we could have gotten away with cheaper liquors or a less expensive band or fewer appetizers or a cheaper dress, but I think everything was nearly perfect!

4.  Nearly all of the guests made a comment on our vows.  We chose to write our own vows, which was so hard but beautiful and worth-while.  Although I didn’t look away from my husband’s face, everyone told me that every single bridesmaid and groomsmen (and 90% of the guests) were all in tears.  All night, people were telling me their favorite parts of our vows and ceremony!  I even got a few requests from people to get a copy of our vows and readings!  I couldn’t believe our words could mean so much to our guests.  It was incredibly moving.

 – A lot of the guests also commented on all the small details (that I was afraid people wouldn’t notice) and all of my DIY projects.  I was beaming all night that people liked the programs, the table names, the pomanders, the favors!  We even got a phone call after we got home from a guest saying that she found her husband’s escort card in his suitcase and he told her wanted to keep it to remind him of such a fun weekend!  Love it!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

1.  The best part about the whole wedding was the vows;I feel like nothing can compare to that moment when we said those words.  We said very traiditional vows, but it meant everything to me.  I’m getting teary-eyed just thinking about it!

2.  I have a few things given to me that were free/really cheap, but meant a ton to me.  Before the wedding, while we were getting ready in the bridal room, my grandma gave me a picture book my mom had made for her when I was born.  There were so many awesome pictures in there of me, my older sisters, my parents, my aunts and uncles, etc…  It was such a surprise; nobody knew she was going to do that!

Also, for my bridal gift, my husband made me a family crest.  It might seem kinda cheesy, but the meaning behind the gift was so sweet.  🙂  The crest he completely designed himself, and included a latin phrase meaning "Love, Loyalty, and a Lifetime."  He also wrote me this amazing letter telling me exactly why he wants to marry me and what the commitment means to him.  The gift only cost the time he spent designing the crest and writing the letter and a $20 frame from Michaels. 

3.  The thing least worth the money was…  I don’t know?  We were under budget on almost everything, so I don’t really think we overspent on anything.  I

4.  Besides the regular "The ceremony was so beautiful"/"What a great wedding" comments, there were two tangible items a lot of people commented on.  One was the cheese and fruit table our caterer set up for the cocktail hour.  I’m not sure how much it cost since the price was built into our per person meal price.  The other thing was the reception venue.  We held the reception at a historic house right on the lake; we even had our own private part of the beach and a private dock!  The cost was $3750 for a 10 hour rental, and that was about 18% of our budget.

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Newbee

1.  I think our ceremony was the most beautiful part.  We wrote the entire script ourselves and my uncle married us.  We had people quoting the vows to us and many commented on the readings. 

2. The most beautiful cheap/free thing was my DOC.  I was getting stressed as it got closer to the wedding about having to run the show on the day of.  My cousin who worked as a wedding planner in a former life oferred to DOC for me.  She drove into town from another state to help.  This was the best gift I got.  The other was my dress, that my grandmother helped me pick out and bought as a gift for me.  She passed away six months before the wedding and it was nice that she had gotten to share in that part of it with me.

3. I don’t know what the answer to this would be.  We cut out a lot of extras and only spent money on what was important to us.  That said, there were some little things that I could have done without.

4. Our guest loved the music.  We were extremely worried about this.  All the songs played the whole night were our pics.  For dancing we played a lot of Jazz, BigBand, classics.  With some metal, disco and obscure stuff thrown in.  People danced all night.  Our DJ was a friend of my mom’s and charged a great price, but I would have paid more.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Ooh fun thread! Hmm…

  1. What, regardless of cost, was/will be the most beautiful part of your wedding?
  2. What was/will be the most beautiful cheap/free thing?
  3. What was/will be the least necessary high-money-value thing?
  4. What did your guests comment favorably on the most, and how much (percentage of budget or dollar value) did it cost?

#1 – the most beautiful part of our wedding was having all our friends and family there to share and celebrate with us. I don’t know how we’d factor cost into this, but it was the one thing that really made the day for the two of us. There’s nothing like having everyone you care about there with you on your special day!

#2 – The most beautiful free thing we had was having our old youth group leader officiate the ceremony for us. In California, anyone can be certified to perform a wedding ceremony for one day…they just had to do some paperwork at the courthouse. Everyone commented on how fitting it was that the person who led us to our faith ended up officiating our ceremony. It was very personal and we wouldn’t have had it any other wya. 

#3 – The least necessary high dollar value thing was probably the centerpieces. I stayed within my budget for that, but in the end no one really cares about them. They were beautiful, but not really necessary in my book.

#4 – Our guests loved many aspects of our wedding (which pleased me since I DIY’d so much stuff), but the thing we kept hearing over and over again is how awesome our video SDE was. To this day, we’re still getting comments about that clip at least a couple times a week. The cinematographers were awesome and well worth the splurge (almost one-fifth of the total budget).

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

What a great thread!

The most beautiful part of our wedding was the location.  We got married on a deck that overlooked the harbor and the reception room had a wall-to-wall window overlooking the Habor, which was beautiful lit up at night!

The best free/cheap thing about the wedding was having so many of our friends and family there that we dont get to see that often.  We have alot of family and friends that lives across the country and it meant so much to us that they came all the way for our wedding!

The least necessary high money value for our wedding was unfortunately the DJ.  We are in the process of writing a very lengthy email about things that went wrong with him and the lighting.  Yes music is necessary and had things gone well I wouldve said he was well worth the money.  Fortunately nothing happened that our guests noticed, just things we noticed but at least it didnt ruin our night!!!

We got so many favorable comments, anywhere from it was the best wedding they had ever been to, to the best food they have had at a wedding to the compliments on the little details.  So many people told me after that they were amazed on how beautiful everything was and how much attention I put into the little details (DIY menu cards, table numbers, place cards, etc).  They said they loved how everything matched and flowed together, which meant alot to me since I spent so much time on details like that.  All of the tangible stuff they commented on if you include the upgraded linens and chairs was about 10-15% of the budget

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

What, regardless of cost, was/will be the most beautiful part of your wedding?

I think the most beautiful part of the wedding was walking down the aisle to meet my husband.  It was so awesome to know that I was walking down to meet him, surrounded by all my friends and family.  It made all the stressful months totally worth it!  

What was/will be the most beautiful cheap/free thing?

The weather!  It was a beautiful, sunny day.  It rained in the morning, but the sun came out just as we were starting photos.   

What was/will be (this might be harder for non-newlyweds to answer) the least necessary high-money-value thing?

Honestly, I don’t think we had anything that I would consider high-money-value, other than the venue.  We saved a lot of money in a lot of ways, so there wasn’t a big splurge that I didn’t think was worth it. 

And solely for the newlyweds — what did your guests comment favorably on the most, and how much (percentage of budget or dollar value) did it cost?

We got wonderful feedback about our venue and food (the venue had their own catering).  Choosing our venue was the first decision we made.  We wanted to get married there because it was important to us AND beautiful.  Everyone loved the setting and they LOVED the food.  This was by far the biggest chunk of our budget–40% of the total budget. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Joyce, what is a video SDE? I’m in the process of choosing my videographer right now.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

MsHymanRoth, sorry to cut in, but it stands for Same Day Edit. Some videographers will tape up through your first dance, and then quickly edit a video of the day to show at your reception.

StillMotion, who is one of our Pros, does it. They’re AMAZING!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ooh. I should have figured that out. Thank you PowderPuff. The videographer I’m thinking we’ll go with does that. Fiance didn’t like the idea, but I loved it…

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

  1. What, regardless of cost, was/will be the most beautiful part of your wedding?

Our wedding hall was worth every penny. Every bit of the mansion was used and i would like to believe that guests enjoyed all of the grounds.

  1. What was/will be the most beautiful cheap/free thing?

Our flowers. My Mother in Law gifted us our flowers and I have to say they were BEAUTIFUL!

My friend who just graduated from Cullinary school gifted us with a grooms cake. I have to say everyone was surprised and confused because the cake looked real!

  1. What was/will be the least necessary high-money-value thing?

Maybe upgrading our cake, I have to say that I loved it and my husband knew I wanted that particular cake and he said "just get it, it will make you happy" I still would have been happy if the cake was not fondant.

  1. What did your guests comment favorably on the most, and how much (percentage of budget or dollar value) did it cost?

All of our guests loved the photobooth. It did cost us about 1500 but I have to say it was worth every penny.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

What, regardless of cost, was/will be the most beautiful part of your wedding?

I took piano lessons my entire life, so we hired a wonderful pianist for the ceremony.  His phrasing and timing were perfect, and his romantic style was ideal for weddings.  I remember listening to him play while the families were seated and the BMs walked down the aisle.  I had goosebumps and remember wishing that I could have listened to him play all day.  When he played while I walked down the aisle with my dad, it was perfect.  I know the moment would have been great otherwise, but the pianist’s talent was the icing on the cake!

What was/will be the most beautiful cheap/free thing?

I guess this isn’t really "beautiful," but it was awesome to see my friends from different walks of life all together in one place and having a great time!  They all got along really well and still keep in touch…very cool!

What was/will be the least necessary high-money-value thing?

We paid very close attention to how much we were spending, so this one is difficult.  I suppose it wasn’t just one thing – I over-bought on SEVERAL things because we had fewer guests attend the wedding than we expected.  (We had about 165 attend, but we were planning for 225 until 2 weeks before the wedding when we got our final numbers.)  This meant I was stuck with: too many linens, too much cake, too many flower petals for the send-off, and too many centerpieces.  Everything else was able to be scaled back.

What did your guests comment favorably on the most, and how much (percentage of budget or dollar value) did it cost?

I think most of our comments were on the venue.  We had the reception in a large museum, and it was a really cool, unique space.  The rental fee for the museum ended up being about 10% of our total costs, but it also impacted everything else since we had order food/alcohol/tables/etc. through the museum.

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