(Closed) What was the difference in time from when he SAID he’d propose and when he did?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What was the time difference from when he said he'd propose and when actually did?
    Early. He said he would propose on X date, and couldn't wait and did it early. : (17 votes)
    25 %
    On the exact date/time frame he said he would. ie: after I graduated... : (15 votes)
    22 %
    He was a little later than he said he would.... >>reason why? : (16 votes)
    23 %
    He said he would and he still hasn't. : (13 votes)
    19 %
    Other? : (8 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    He said he was going to marry me pretty much from the time we had our first date, lol! Actually, we had a long time to think about it and get to know each other. For a 4 years he was a little insecure, afraid I would leave him for another doctor while in doc school. And then finances held him back. There never was an ultimatum given to him, and he never said he would propose by a certain time. When it was right, it was right. We were together 6 years before things fell into place for us and he proposed. Never once did I think anything was wrong or doubt his feelings for me.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - Anthony’s Fine Dining

    My FI told me he planned to propose after graduation (we would have been together 4.5 years) in May.  He actually proposed the August prior to that.  Apparently he had planned it that way all along, and the graduation thing was just something to throw me off because he wanted it to be a surprise.  He’s VERY proud of how much he threw me off, and every time someone mentions it, he sings “Poker Face.”  :rolls eyes lovingly:

    Post # 5
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My FI never gave me (or me him) a deadline of when he would propose by. We discussed marriage, but never specific time we had to do it by. Our relationship just progressed, and when it was right, he did it.

    Post # 6
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    132 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    He kept telling me that he wouldn’t propose until he finished his MBA, but he actually planned to do it much earlier–10 months earlier, in fact!  It made me feel a little guilty for giving him the occasional hard time about making me wait if he knew he wanted to marry me…

    So we ended up getting engaged 1.75 years after we met, and when we get married in September, we’ll have been together for ~3.5 years.

    Post # 7
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    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My Fiance proposed out of the blue one night. I wasn’t expecting it and I couldn’t help but say yes! The thought of him proposing hadn’t crossed my mind. The idea of marrying him did. I just didn’t think he would just up and do it without even a discussion about it. But man I am glad he did.

    Post # 8
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    431 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I thought the proposal was supposed to be a surprise.  My husband didn’t tell me he was going to propose, he just…proposed.  If he’s going to tell you he’s proposing, then why doesn’t he just propose right then?  Why wait?

    Post # 9
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    273 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    when we first seriously discussed getting engaged we actually both decided that one year seemed like a good amount of time to pull things together.  that was october 2009.  apparently over thanksgiving he officially made up his mind that he wanted to propose when he came home to visit me over christmas.  one of the best christmases ever and totally unexpected.  i thought he would do it over the summer.  he said one of the reasons he went ahead with it was that he knew i wanted a january wedding and he didn’t want to feel rushed planning or have a long engagement.  🙂  i was fine with that.

    Post # 10
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    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    my fi asked me what I would say if he asked me to marry him after basic training in June..and I said I would say yes. He bought the ring in October 08 but didn’t propose till Christmas 09. Reason why: I have no idea, even than he wasn’t what he said he was going to do. I think he got comfortable…with our life together

    Post # 11
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    456 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @eileen marie: haha, good point.  My bf simply can’t help himself. he talks about it every step of the way! i don’t mind though, a surprise isn’t necessary.  For me, he said it would be a few weeks ago and i’m still waiting. but i know it’s because he didn’t really factor in how much research he’d want to do before settling on a ring (which he has not yet bought).  He’s “proposed” sans-ring a few times in the meantime, usually after a few drinks 😉

    Post # 12
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    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    we talked about it for a few months and basically decided thats what we were going to do (this was in december-january). went ring shopping in february. he told me he would propose by june 2010. he proposed 4 days after the ring came in, in march 2010.

    Post # 13
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My husband never told me when he was going to propose.  We both knew the relationship was serious, but I never brought up the m-word, nor did he…at first. 

    We had not planned to live together, but he kind of moved in a bit at a time..staying over more often, having extra clothes at my house, etc.  One day, he must have picked up on the fact that I didn’t seem quite myself and asked me what was bothering me.  I finally admitted that I wasn’t comfortable with the situation; while I loved having him there all the time, I never intended to live together before marriage and that was where we had somehow ended up.  He then told me that it wouldn’t be forever because he knew he wanted to marry me and he would propose “when the time was right.” 

    That was around Thanksgiving.  He proposed on New Year’s Eve.  I later learned he had planned that all along and would have done so even had I never metioned that it was what I wanted.  Now I sometimes wish I’d kept my mouth shut…

    So to answer the question, I put “other” because he never said when we’d get engaged.  He didn’t say “We will get engaged by X date or after Y happens.   He simply said “when the time is right.”  Maybe I should have answered on the exact time frame he said he would.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    FI said in March of 09 that he would most likely propose in 2 years (around the time I was 25) I was totally fine with this! Then Labor Day weekend (6 months later) we got engaged! He didnt know in March that he was going to propose. He said that he decided in early August that he was going to propose because he just didnt want to wait that long and then not even a month after he decided he was going to he proposed to me!

    Post # 15
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    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    In June 2009 we talked about it.  He said sometime in the next 3 years and I said I felt that was a little long.  He said he wanted to get married in the summer of 2012 so sometime before Summer of 2011 but I think it will be this summer/fall 🙂 wahoo for being early!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My FI and I had a time frame for wanted to get engaged, and he proposed…towards the end of the time frame. My little sister told me and ruined the whole surprise 🙁

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