Post # 1
My best friend is pregnant and is the first one in our social circle to have a baby. I want to be the best friend ever and do all that I can to help her through these next nine months, but I have no experience with pregnancies. Help me, bees! What are some things that people gave you or did for you that you really appreciated when you were pregnant? What were some things that you wished someone had done for you?
Post # 3
My friend gave me some Earth Mama Angel Baby teas for morning sicknesses and heartburn. I they were wonderful! Other ideas are throwing her a shower, having a relaxing spa day together, shopping for baby stuff together, etc
Post # 4
It’s a bit pricey but DH’s aunt gave us 20 gifts at 20 weeks one to open up for each week until the baby comes. It was stuff that everyone would need like shampoo, lotion, white onsies, recieving blankets etc. Seriously is the best thing ever!
Post # 5
@MrsRose: wow what an awesome gift!!! and how fun for you!
Post # 6
The most amazing thing my best friend did for me so far was coordinating a girls dinner. I didn’t go out much because of the morning sickness and avoiding alcohol in early pregnancy, so as soon as I was feeling better and ready to announce it to all the girls, my BFF coordinated a pot luck at my house (can’t get much easier than that!). I live very out of the way for everyone, so not having to drive, or cook, was amazing! She also got everyone to agree to come at an earlier time and ensured no one lingered so I can get to bed. It was so needed and such a sweet gesture!
My DH also got me a prenatal massage and the snoogle, both of which are amazing.
Post # 7
I am pregnant now myself, so I’ll see what my friends come up with when they find out!
For one of my friends during her pregnancy I sent her messages every two weeks to see how she was going- I know she liked being able to de-brief to someone other than her partner. Also when she gave birth I dropped around dinners every once and a while, she said they were the hardest weeks (even harder than pregnancy) taking care of a newborn and all the other chores is hardwork! She REALLY appreciated the meals 😉
You sound like a lovely friend!
Post # 8
She arranged and hosted my baby shower. She bought my pack n play for me (well gave me the money and I bought it). Has offered her oldest daughter services for babysitting. (Her daughters are 19 & 17) which they are fine with that.
Post # 9
I’m almost 6 months along and had a very easy pregnancy thus far, so the nicest thing people did for me was to just text/email/call and ask how I was doing. It’s really nice to know that people care about you and excited for you too. So, I’d say if you can check in (especially after she has appointments, like the 12 week one and the 20 week ultrasound), she will be very appreciative.
Now that I’m bigger and starting to get uncomfortable (my lower back is killing me!), I’d love it if I was gifted a prenatal massage. I’ve been hinting that to DH for the last week. But really, just being caring and involved as a friend is so cherished.
Post # 10
@liliwo2016: My SIL just had a baby and she had a friend give her 3 gifts during pregnancy, first trimester gift, 2nd trimester gift and 3rd trimester gift. I think the first trimester was survival stuff for first tri (preggie pops, etc), the 2nd trimester gift gift was small stuffed animal from the college my brother went to & the 3rd trimester gift was a onsie from my bro’s college as well. My bestie is preggers & I got her baby onsies from the college she went to as her “first trimester gift” and then as her 2nd trimester gift I got her a stuffed animal for the baby’s room (we are both doing grey nurseries with elephants) so i got the babies matching stuffed animals. =) I’ll have to come up with something for her 3rd trimester.
Post # 11
Thanks for all of the great suggestions! One of our other friends is already organizing the baby shower for her or else that would have been my first idea. I think I’m going to steal the one gift per trimester idea, and organize a girls dinner.
Post # 12
The awesome girls and my two male managers (and bestfriends) i worked with threw me a surprise shower and bought my son’s crib… i seriously cried it was the best thing i could have literally ever hoped for. I was 18 pregnant with my second child and their father was an ass! I couldn’t have been happier! Also when i was about 8 month pregnant and couln’t reach my toes my bestfriend would paint my toe nails… It doesn’t seem like much but it was seriously so sweet!
Post # 13
@liliwo2016: she is lucky to have so many good friends!!
Post # 14
People often say a gift card for a massage, but I personally hated prenatal massage (having to lay on my side sucked for me lol). What I would have loved though is a foot massager or an easy to set up foot spa thing (especially one that could warm the water on it’s own). People asking how I am feeling and if I need anything was also really big for me.
Post # 15
The nicest thing my BFF did was… Already being a pregnant when I found out I was pregnant. So, you know, just get knocked up so she doesn’t have to go through it alone 😉
Post # 16
I came over after she’d been home with baby for 2 weeks. I held the baby while she took a long much-needed bath, did her toes, etc. Then I put her in her bedroom with the baby and a book and I cleaned her house, made a dinner in the crockpot, and made a few freezer meals and her favorite cake. It was an exhausting day but she was so so so thankful!