Post # 1
Why was it so horrid?
The worst wedding I have ever been to was FI’s aunts. It was last August on the hottest day of the year. The ceremony was held in a church with no air conditioning and it lasted FOREVER. There were literally people taking off layers of clothing right there in the pew. I even saw one woman skillfully remove her panty hose.
Anywho, after the ceremony was finally over the bridal party lined up for the receiving line. We were in the last row so naturally we had the pleasure of remaining in the oven for an additional half hour while everyone else took their sweetass time mingling (grrr!). Just as we were approaching the newlyweds I almost passed out so FI took me outside.
So fast forward to the reception that was held in a Knights of Columbus type of place. We walk inside and are again hit with a wall of heat. FANTASTIC (if you haven’t gathered yet, I dont do well in heat). There was a cash bar and they didnt even take credit cards. FI and I almost never carry cash so we had to drive to the nearest ATM (10 minutes away). 75 people showed up that didnt RSVP. They ended up having to squeeze like 8 more tables into the room that was ALREADY at max capacity. They even had to add chairs to the opposite side of the head table and random guests were sitting there! There was no room to move so once we were in our seats we couldnt move without literally climbing over people. About 2 hours later the buffet was brought out. AGAIN sitting in the back came back to bite us in the ass. The buffet was served from the front to the back and there were rude banquet coordinators telling each table when they could go up to eat. An hour and a half later they still had not got to our table so my FSIL and I went up anyways. We were yelled at but refused to go sit down since we were literally starving. We were greeted by a half a slice of ham, 5 noodles of fettuccini alfredo, 1/4 cup of mashed potatoes and some strange vegetable that there was plenty of because no-one wanted to eat it.
By the time we left, the thermostat said it was 94 degrees inside the banquet hall.
We hit up McD’s on the way home and sat in our central air for the rest of the weekend.
Post # 3
Mine was my fiance’s cousin. It was held in a train depot which was kind of cute actually. But the photographer kept being really rude to people to get pictures (she made fiance’s friend get up out of his chair and stand for the ceremony so he wouldn’t be in her way). The DJ showed up in holey jeans and a football jersey. The ceremony was nice, I’m not a fan of the mismatched prom dress look for bridesmaids but to each her own. After the ceremony all of us had to take our chairs and help move around the tables and chairs to form the reception space. Time for food, which seemed promising. It was cold hot dogs and Doritos with punch. The kicker was that the punch was spiked with champagne and nobody told anyone so there were nine year olds walking around drunk. The bride then had her aunt sing her favorite song for her, which sounds like a nice idea. The song was about five minutes song, no back up music, and the bride joined in but they were completely off from each other with notes and tempo. I will say the groom’s cake was homemade by my fiance’s aunt and was great! Then the bride and groom left and told everyone to dance because they had the place until midnight (it was about 6 or 7pm). As soon as the getaway car pulled away the bridesmaids yelled at everyone to clean up everything so everyone could get out of there. We went to my fiance’s uncle’s house and ate some food there and played pool/drank/had fun since we weren’t allowed to stay at the train depot. I will add that the wedding could have been done very nicely but I felt like there were miscommunications among vendors/bridesmaids/the couple which made things go a bit wrong.
Post # 4
That sounds horrible!
The worst wedding I went to wasn’t anywhere near that bad. It was also a scorching hot day, and the wedding was in a tent. Did I mention it was a dry wedding? The DJ only played country and there was no dance floor, so you had to dance on dirt. Did I mention the porta-potties? Have you ever tried to go to a porta-potty in the dark in a dress? It’s not fun.
Post # 5
I went to a friend’s wedding last summer… the wedding itself was actually very lovely, but my boyfriend was a groomsman, and the bridal party’s dates weren’t seated at the head table with them. I didn’t know anyone at the wedding aside from my boyfriend and the groom, so I felt completely alone the whole night. To top it off, my boyfriend hates dancing and didn’t want to dance with me. I spent the whole night on the phone with my best friend.
Post # 6
I’ve never been to an awful wedding ceremony, but there’s one reception that stands out in my mind as being pretty unpleasant. It was a ex-boyfriend’s cousin’s wedding. The reception was held on a boat that sailed around Raritan Bay, one of the most polluted bodies of water in the U.S. It was literally us and a bunch of garbage barges. How romantic! The meal consisted of a few cold, fried appetizers that were clearly purchased at Costco. Now, I have nothing against Costco or heavy hors d’oeurves receptions. But everything was fried. Nothing was hot. We were told to expect heavu hors d’oeuvres so we didn’t eat beforehand, but there was only enough for 2 or 3 pieces per person. And we were trapped on this boat, so there was no leaving early or running out for a few minutes to grab a bite. The worst part? I know for a fact the reception cost this poor family well over $20k in 1999. Thank goodness they sunk some of that budget into a full open bar or everyone would have been truly miserable!
Post # 7
My aunt and uncle’s wedding back in like 1994 was quite interesting. It was in Vermont in January…. yeah. There was a blizzard that weekend, our car’s engine froze, and our heater broke on the way home. We were freezing the whole weekend.
I was a flower girl, along with my sister, and my brother was the ringbearer. I was SO excited, but I ended up having to carry my brother’s pillow cause he got nervous. Then, I got mad at him for keeping me from throwing my petals haha… oh the trials of being 8 🙂
Post # 8
i don’t think i’ve ever been to any really terrible ones…. but i’d say the worst for me was just super boring and awkward.
it was a friend of mine from law school and I was the only person from law school that he invited (which i did not know)… so we knew NO ONE. And they only invited like 3 other friends each and they were in the bridal party, so we were literally the only people under 40 not in the bridal party. The ceremony itself was fine, but then their reception was just cake/punch in the lobby of the church. There was like some pretzels and chips and veggies too i think. There was no music, no dancing, no assigned seating (and waaaay too much seating so we sat down at a table and no one sat with us). Then the bride and groom didn’t come out for like 1.5 hours bc they were doing pictures. So basically we sat alone at a table with each other munching on a few carrot sticks for over an hour with no music and no one to talk to but each other! awwwwkward haha. they came out, we watched them cut the cake then high-tailed it out of there.
Post # 9
These all sound awful!
I have to say it was my best friend’s wedding this summer, in which I was MOH. I should preface this by saying that they’re a young couple with very, very little money and managed to pay for the wedding and reception themselves, which I greatly admire and respect. That being said, it was definitely not my taste or how I’d choose to have things.
The most annoying thing was the amount of children there. Now, I’m not at all opposed to having children at weddings though I’d probably opt to have an adult-only reception. BUT… her family is so large, and almost all of the younger people have small babies and children. There were probably 10 kids alone, and it was a very small wedding to begin with. They were so loud and obnoxious, running around and screaming. I couldn’t believe their parents didn’t step in! I swear to you, one of them actually somehow ended up in a Spiderman costume. I don’t know how it happened or WHY his parents thought it would be appropriate to bring it along, but we had a tiny Spiderman running around and screaming the whole time.
There was also no music and no alcohol. The only music was when they had their first dance and she danced with her dad. People hightailed it outta there quick. I actually felt really bad that no one stayed longer. 🙁
Post # 10
worst was too formal, lack of atmosphere. Groom was yawning and trying to get people out. Booze seemed sparce (hate this). Too many old people. Bridal waltz was too rehearsed and not relaxed. not enough food. bad music.
my husband and I ordered pizza room service when we got back to the hotel and had more fun watching tv!
Post # 11
@karo: LMAO @ Spiderman!!!
Post # 12
@Chillmer: I think the porta-potties got me beat! That sounds truly dreadful.
Post # 13
I was a bridesmaid in my FORMER friend’s wedding. The ceremony started at 10 am, almost everyone interrupted the wedding because they came in really late, and the ceremony was in a tinsy-tiny chapel that kinda looked like a barn. The walking down the aisle music was on a cd player that barely worked. The bride had an affair two months later and the groom filed for divorce after 3 months. The bride later told me that as she was saying her vows she could not stop thinking about one of the groomsman. Such as waste. It pissed me off to an even further level because I put out so much money to help her with the wedding and my mom wrote her a large check as a present……which she didn’t return or write a thank you note for.
Post # 14
I don’t remember being at any terrible weddings, but I was at one as a kid that my parents still talk about because of some of the things that happened. So, I guess it counts? I was there…I just don’t remember it being bad.
It was my mom’s cousin’s wedding. I guess what happened was it was a hot day, like some of you other ladies have said, so that didn’t help people’s moods. The gap between the ceremony and reception was too long, and then, at the reception….
I suppose I should point out that my “aunt” (the mother of the bride in this case) is the type of person who will invite three people to dinner, cook only enough for those three people, and if anyone else shows up, too bad. She went with this same theme for the wedding. Anyone who didn’t RSVP was not counted, she didn’t bother to call or try to get in touch with people to see if they’re coming. (I agree that people should have the sense to RSVP, but in this case it came back to bite her.) So, then, at the reception, when it came to the food, they ordered enough to have for the people who did RSVP…and not a bit more. When people who did not RSVP showed up to the wedding, there was obviously not enough food. My mom always points out that the food ran out right when the Pastor got to the front of the line!
I have no idea what ended up happening, as I really don’t remember this even happening, but I’ll be making sure there’s enough food at my reception! =)
Post # 15
The worst I’ve been to was my FBIL’s. They invited no one but spent about 10k on i don’t know what. We (my FI’s immediate family and her immediate family) basically sat in a gazebo WITH them at their free clubhouse for the ceremony. The tennis courts were about 30′ away and the officiant’s wife had to go tell people not to play tennis because they were getting married.
After the ceremony, we followed them to the restaurant. Except dinner wasn’t til 3 hours later. They took pictures at the beach while we stood and watched since we had no idea when they’d be done and when dinner would be. Needless to say, I was beyond grumpy, with a major headache and I ended up hating the bride more now than before the wedding. Oh and dinner was awkward and quiet since the two families don’t like each other and the room was the size of a dorm room.
Post # 16
My mother’s friend a couple years ago.
They had their wedding in this shoddy little banquet hall. There were literally holes punched in the drywall, wallpaper peeling off the walls, stains from water leaks on the ceiling and down the walls. I dont even know how the health deaprtment allows food to be served there. It was disgusting.
Anyway, they held everything in one place so we sat at our tables through the ceremony. There was no mic, so we couldnt hear a thing. To top it all off, there was a very noisy wedding going on in the banquet hall next door. In the middle of the ceremony, a drunk guy the the other wedding burst into the hall and started yelling for someone. Then, her (the bride) neice started screaming and they just let her squall through the entire rest of the ceremony.
They had a cash bar and didnt tell anyone and the venue only took cash. So, people didnt get a drink because they didnt have cash on them. After all that, people were already pissy. Then they called us table by table to the buffet. We had to wait a good 45 minutes to be called. When we got there, the food was disgusting. It was worse than the food in my high school cafeteria. I happen to know that this place only charges $10-$20/head, but still… can you make the food edible at least?
Awful. I felt so bad for the bride. She put so much effort into everything and was really looking forward to it. Nothing that happened was her fault. It was all due to the incompetance of the venue staff.