Post # 1
I’ve been looking at putting together our ceremony in the past couple of days. What are the resources you’ve used to design it? I’ve been struggling to create something meaningful, entertaining, funny, touching and not sappy… Where have you gone to find these things?
And what traditions are you incorporating? I’ve thought about the lasso, handfasting, unity candle, sand ceremony, memory box. I saw a recent ceremony that had a fire ceremony. It was really cool!
What about readings?
So far my go to has been the Kvetch site under the ceremony tab, but I’m sure the Hive has been resourceful and has even more suggestions… so let me know. How did you put together your ceremony? (And yes, it’s nice when your church has a specific set of traditions, but we are only incorporating pieces of those traditions).
Post # 3
I got the book recommended by a few different bees, The Wedding Ceremony Planner. It’s actually only one of two books/ magazines/ etc I’ve bought instead of just looking to the web for information.
I’m not sure what to do with reading as I don’t think I’ve ever been to a ceremony that incorporated more than a quote. Still, that book helped me loads. I also found some neat readings on about.com, including one from a Supreme Court case about the meaning of marriage!
I’m not doing anything like handfasting, unity candle, etc — but we will have our parents stand with us and support our marriage.
Post # 4
We’re meeting with our pastor tomorrow to discuss the ceremony, and I’m really looking forward to it. All I know for certain at this point is that we’re going to have three readings. Two are fairly traditional (a passage of scripture from Ruth — a really popular reading, although it’s actually about Ruth choosing to stay with Naomi and thus giving up the chance to marry again, so its extreme popularity is a little ironic — and a Shakespearean sonnet), but my favorite is "A Modern Declaration" by Edna St. Vincent Millay. (I was going to post the whole poem, but it’s being all weird, and I’m too tired to fix it!)
Post # 5
If you’re incorporating any Jewish traditions, I’ve been digging <span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-style: italic”>T<span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-style: italic”>he New Jewish Wedding by Anita Dimante (I think that’s her name). My sister sent it to me, but then it was highly recommended by a rabbi we met with. We’re having an interfaith ceremony, and it’s been neat to learn more about the traditions etc, so I’d recommend taking a look at it if you’re even mildly curious.
Post # 6
Thanks for the suggestions! I was reading Ruth yesterday to see if there was something that I might use. There’s a lot of good stuff there. I’m also looking at Rainier Maria Rilke and Khalil Gibran for inspiration.
We are looking at incorprating a few Jewish traditions, so I’ll have to check Anita Dimante out. Thanks!
If anyone has other suggestions, I’m all ears because the creativity well is running dry!
Post # 7
I have talked about this several times on WB, but my favorite wedding bio of all time is jbloom’s on The Knot. They wrote their own ceremony that included a "pants cutting" ceremony. Basically, their officiant said something along the lines of "Now jbloom and Mr. jbloom will cut this pair of pants to symbolize their commitment to sharing responsibilites and decision-making throughout their marriage." They held up an old pair of jeans and held the scissors together while they cut it in half. I don’t have the exact wording, but it was really cute and original. I can’t find her bio anymore, but she hangs out on the Snarky Brides board if you want to hunt her down for more info.